How to say Goodbye to toxic relationship

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Re: How to say Goodbye to toxic relationship

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We attract who we are so the best way to distance from toxic relationships is to become a better version of yourself so you attract the type of peole you want to be in your circle or to be in a relationship with. For example if I want that my next relationship be with someone who deeply loves and values me I must love and value myself and extend the same to others. Also remember sometimes holding on far outweighs the benefits for example if the other person in the relationship with you is abusive so in any breakup focus on the positives , the gains from the breakup . So forgive, pick the lessons, be a better version and focus on the positives then give the gift of your absence to those who don't appreciate your presence
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Post by CALVOH1 »

Definitely it is one of the toxic ideas in leaving a relationship especially to those the heart feels for
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"Goodbye toxic relationship, you are harming me, i found the antidote, you will never hurt me again"

The key to getting out of a toxic relationship is first, realizing it is toxic the second, accepting that it is toxic. the other person in the relationship must add meaning/value/positive emotions or atleast laughter to your life. if they do neither of that and also cause you to feel hurt, toxified and worse off, then you are better off without them.

Love yourself enough to let go.
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Post by ktom »

Yes, the decision to end a toxic relationship and actually being able to leave are two separate things. It can be so difficult to move on when you can't actually go anywhere, especially if things between the couple are still quite amiable. When things are not as pleasant, it tends to be a bit easier to let go, but until you can close that chapter for good, it's hard to give a proper goodbye.
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Post by mamalui »

Every one here is talking about relationship with spouses. What about disfunctional parental relationships can someone walk away too?
No idea is a bad idea.

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I believe the best way is to be direct and honest about how you feel the relationship is going.
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I agree. It's definitely hard to move forward from a relationship where you invested so much, only to receive so much pain in return. Seeking help or just anyone who will listen is definitely one step forward from this sort of toxic relationships.
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Post by biscuits »

When a relationship is based on the wrong reasons, its bound to have a lot of problems on the way. Even those based on sound foundations encounter challenges too. But the truth is, if its not working, try to fix it. If its not fixable, just buy a new one. :wink:
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That was one of the strong points of the book -- the conflict the characters felt about whether or not to end the relationships. I thought it was handled very well in all three cases. Well, in two -- Nadia's relationship was already ended.
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Ending a relationship is not an easy thing to do especially after investing your time and efforts in it. But it reaches a time when you can't hold on anymore. You are left with no choice than to just let go. When it's time to let go, just let it go.
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Post by faint9 »

Ending a relationship is not as easy as one may think. Be it be dysfunctional or just a little hiccups here and there. Past memories come knocking asking 'what if' you tried this the last time. Therefore, one has to gradually heal. This will be facilitated by leaving the scenes you ocassionally used to frequent with the person, avoid calls, text messages or anything that may remind you about the person etc.
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