How to say Goodbye to toxic relationship

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I found myself in a toxic relationship before. It was difficult when my friends gave up on me, leaving me to get out alone.
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Life is too short to be unhappy. Also a good question in regard to burning bridges - saying goodbye doesn't always mean forever.
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oh yes! I definitely agree with you Amagine. Its very important to end toxic relationships before its too late. Yes, no one loves to end a relationship that may have started beautifully but If everything has been done to salvage the relationship and nothing works, then the relationship should be ended.
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I think that a person should forgive the mistakes of his partner and should leave the relationship on a good note. It is the best way I think ?
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Whenever I have decided to walk away from a relationship, I have walked away and did not look back. I may have cried the first few days, but I always felt healthier afterward.
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Too much negative energy will eventually wear you down and lead to more problems. In some instances, you may imagine that you're doing it for the sake of the children but in reality, you may end up hurting them more. Children always read into their parents' behaviour. That, plus the negativity ends up spilling over to them.
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It's not easy to end a disfunctional relationship but ones it ends there is no use staying. One needs to start afresh letting go of the past.
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A person needs to leave a toxic relationship if they or their children are in danger. Constant verbal toxicity can also lead to health problems due to the stress and fear.
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leaving a toxic relationship is hard to leave. it is always healthier to leave a bad situation. Having family and friends to help and support you is the best way to leave a toxic situation.
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I do agree with you. Making such decisions is very difficult.
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Ending a relationship where there is vested time is never easy, even when there are no children involved. I think it's natural to want to fix something before ultimately giving up, and even when you know you can't fix it it's still not easy. Your relationships are a huge part of who you are and what you have become in life, and just not that easy to let go.
I agree with previous posters about the necessity of a strong support system, especially when leaving an abusive situation. In the worst of cases, the one leaving will need actual physical protection as well as emotional support, which is often why those are the hardest relationships to end, especially when there are children involved. If someone thinks his or her actions in leaving will cause negative attention to then be focused on the children, then that person will probably just deal with it. These aren't easy situations, and it's not always cut and dry.
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It can be so difficult to end a toxic relationship. Sometimes, one can feel that they have invested so much time and energy and it is hard to give everything up and start over. Also, I think there can be a certain amount of fear of the unknown, especially if there are children involved.
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I agree it's the most difficult situation to be in, especially when kids are involved. On the contrary, it's better to leave than subject the kids to the trauma.
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No fancy way, really. Just end the relationship first in your heart and head. If you're living together, map out a strategy to move your stuff while your partner is away. The last step is to remove yourself physically from that house and environment. Everything should be executed fast so that nothing resurrects the toxic relationship you endured for so long and have now successfully buried.
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Moving on from a toxic relationship is definitely not the same as ending it. Moreover, it takes a toll on the present, past and future and therefore has to be dealt with carefully.
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