Is it true women try to please their men?

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To some extent it's true but there comes a time when underlying unresolved issues take precedence and pleasure becomes a mirage. No more pleasure of pleasing your partner becomes the lead.
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Let's put parameters around the "pleasing." Should women try to live their life in a way that compliments themselves and their partners? Yes. Should women try to do things for their partners they know they like? Yes. But doing something for your man should never be seen as serving him, or the other way around. You help each other be better, and to do that you can never belittle what the other does. I'm not going to say they have to be equal. I know relationships where the woman goes the extra mile a lot more than her man but the man already has a lot on his plate in means of taking care of her. The most important thing is that you both are clear on your expectations for one another and you voice concerns if/when they arise. You must have love and trust above all.
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Women have to please their men to keep them. Men are like kids you have to treat them as such. If yo don't somebody else definitely will.
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In a healthy relationship, both partners should be trying to please the other (to a reasonable extent, of course). I think a lack of reciprocity will eventually lead to resentment.
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I think both the sides should focus on pleasing each other because they both are in the relationship not just any one of them.
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I think both the sides should focus on pleasing each other because they both are in the relationship not just any one of them.
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I think both the sides should focus on pleasing each other because they both are in the relationship not just any one of them.
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I believe that both parties in a relationship should want to please each other, but they shouldn't be completely dependent on each other for happiness. Some cultures still believe that women should please their men. I know some women take extra caution to please their man in order to avoid conflict, that would be an awkward situation for me to be in.
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I guess, pleasing your especial someone is a two-way journey. Both of you must try to please each other for somewhat it strengthens your relationship.
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It's true but also true is the opposite, the man trying to please his woman. It's love that knows no bounds.
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I'll echo what sb said up there, the pleasing should come from both sides and should flow from love rather than from duty.
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I think this all depends on the dynamics of the relationship. In some the women try to please the men and in others the men try to please the women.

For myself I'd like the relationship to ne both ways. We both try to please the other one. It's so tiring trying to please someone when nothing you do seems to be good enough, and getting nothing in return. :cry:
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Gravy wrote:I find this question to have some unpleasant connotations.

Every partner should try to please their significant other, regardless of gender. However, I don't think either side should just expect to be catered to, which is what comes to mind with this phrasing (like I said, connotations).

I believe a lot of women still have the unfortunate mindset that it's expected of them, but that some honestly enjoy it. I also believe that it should never be taken for granted, on either side.
I couldn't have said this better. I completely agree with you!
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Most women see it as their duty to always please their men, and some cultures and religions demand it. It is not bad for a woman to try to please the man, but the man should equally make an effort. I believe everything in a relationship should be mutual
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gali wrote:
Jeconiaomolo wrote:In the story both Lara and Nadia have issues with their men. Nadia thinks that Lara's case is just like many unhappy stories she has been coming across every day of women trying to please their men. She is even worried why men and women relationship could not be based on satisfaction and control. Do you agree with Nadia that in relationships it is women trying to please their men or the opposite?
I disagree with her. I think both sides should try to please each other, but they should do it out of love and not out of duty.
I agree with gali also.
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