Is it true women try to please their men?

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Mostly women try to please men because they're afraid of losing someone and that they can't find other person to experience the relationship. In my opinion, it should never be one-sided. Both couples should please each other in order for them to have a fruitful and meaningful relationship. Women tend to do it more because they are more open in sharing their feelings but not all the time. They are also men who can also do it but sometimes afraid that they are losing their manhood and it serves as a weakness for them. The best way to please each other is by communicating to one another. Telling the person instead of denying it is a form of trust. Just talk to one another so that each conflict will be resolved instead of hiding or ignoring it.
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It is 100% true that women try to please men, but I think the opposite is true in a lot of cases. Women are more sensitive overall than men and so are more likely to seek approval from the men they like. But I think that there are men who would do anything to please the women in their lives.
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I don't necessarily agree with this. I think it is different for every relationship. Relationships between men and women are complex, and in my opinion, cannot be characterized with a blanket statement. Although, in general but not always, I do think that women want to be peacekeepers and want there to be harmony with those people in their life.
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Women naturally tries to please their men. I think this is how God created women. This is the very reason why when a woman decides to end a relationship it becomes difficult to restore.
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I think it varies with culture, where you are from and how you are brought up. In the western world, it works both ways. In the book, it was more about the woman.
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I believe it should be equal if he wants something he should be willing to give in return.
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Yes, it's true. It's the true nature of a woman, especially in love.
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I think it goes both ways. Men try to please their women by doing certain and women try to please their men in order to keep them. Either way, they do it out of love.
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I think women do try to please their men. I think it's an antiquated idea though. Women should try to please their men. Men should try to please their women. And I think both genders, in a healthy relationship, strive for this in our society today. Or well, by our society, I guess I mean American society. Neither should take it for granted, but unfortunately, this happens.
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I think that this is very dependent on culture and also what you define 'try to please' as meaning. If it refers to working to make them happy within a relationship, then yes, but I would expect it to be mutual. If it refers to being obedient to make them happy then, while this may occur, I think it is wrong. I am aware that there are many cultures where the woman's submissiveness and obedience defines whether they please their husband, but this is not a culture I was raised in. I expect two people to work together to make each other happy. This shows respect for each other.
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I agree that they should, but at the same time the men should be helping and trying to please their wives.
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I believe that most women try to please their men but not all women try to do so.
I believe also that most men try to please their women. If they truly love each other it a will go both ways.
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Most women try to please their men. Whether to keep them, or shut them up, or to brag about it. I know someone who does everything her man asks of her, just so he has no reason to say he could or would cheat on her, and in the end he cheated nonetheless. So in that respect, i do believe there is a limit to trying to please your man, and it should always be based in love, not for what you can get in return. And i belive, we have to ask for it in return. Some men grow up in houses where they see their mothers tending to their father's needs, but they don't see the fathers giving it in return. So it's up to us ladies to let them know that one hand doesn't clap. You bake the bread, I'll put the butter, and we will both have sandwiches.
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I believe this should happen on both sides, but the motivating factor should be love and not fear. Only then can a strong relationship be built...
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Yes, but it should be both ways.
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