Fidelity vs. infidelity

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Post by Jeconiaomolo » 20 Jul 2017, 23:03

Shireks Nancy wrote:To me, it is not cheating until it is physical Everyone makes mistakes, but if someone can go back at the last minute, then I don't think they should be held liable.
I agree with you.
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Post by gali » 21 Jul 2017, 01:25

Shireks Nancy wrote:To me, it is not cheating until it is physical Everyone makes mistakes, but if someone can go back at the last minute, then I don't think they should be held liable.
I disagree. Yassir had sex calls with his lover and would have realized the affair if his lover wasn't homeless.

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Emilyflint wrote:You do not have to have to have a physical relationship for it to be cheating. Thats it. No gray areas.
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Post by PRAXIDES » 21 Jul 2017, 12:04

It doesn't matter if it wasn't physical. Emotional attachment is cheating too. And am sure he would have slept with her if she had a decent house. The only thing that prevented him from doing it was the living condition of Isabella.
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Post by kislany » 24 Jul 2017, 13:42

I do find emotional fidelity important. Just because the husband didn't actually bang the secretary, constantly flirting with her and thinking about her makes it just as bad as the deed itself.

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Post by EWinters » 25 Jul 2017, 08:17

Emotional cheating is still cheating.
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Post by Ubyamos » 25 Jul 2017, 12:24

To me it was an affair. I think emotional attachments alone without physical contacts is even worse because the "cheater" will neither be in a real affair nor real marriage.

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Post by Tamanna » 30 Jul 2017, 04:13

I believe that although he wasn't in a physical relationship with her it was still cheating. He was emotionally involved with her and in that way, he had been unfaithful to his wife.
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Post by Ssinghal » 30 Jul 2017, 16:40

I still say that it doesn't count as an affair. He was no way of getting out of the marriage since he didn't want the kids to be affected adversely, so this was the only option left to relieve the stress. And he didn't materialize the relationship because he felt it was wrong. IF it were about her living conditions, he could easily have taken her t a hotel or somewhere like that.
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Post by steve julius » 30 Jul 2017, 17:47

Emotional talk is even dangerous than a physical one. It is better to choose your words wisely while relating to another person who is not your spouse.

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Post by Jan Moraa Onsomu » 06 Aug 2017, 03:36

That was infidelity. There's emotional cheating involved and it eventually led to his first meeting with Isabelle. Hadn't she been a poor homeless woman, I believe the story would have had a totally different ending.
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Post by Yeosin Mary » 14 Aug 2017, 19:33

Even do there was no physical relationship as long as he was fleeting with another woman whom is not his wife it is considered as cheating.

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Post by Serina Vitrino » 17 Aug 2017, 15:06

That is definitely emotional cheating
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Post by Mosubi » 19 Aug 2017, 11:01

It was infidelity. You cannot justify cheating. It is just wrong.
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Post by Leyla » 20 Aug 2017, 09:42

It is cheating. Those thoughts and words should be shared with his wife only. He retreated only because of the girl living condition. He never acknowledged that what he did was wrong.

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Post by gaporter » 23 Aug 2017, 21:08

It was definitely cheating. I think he should have had to face more consequences for his actions.

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