Fidelity vs. infidelity

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Re: Fidelity vs. infidelity

Post by yellosteel » 12 Jul 2017, 10:12

I want you guys to know that it takes two to tango. If you are not giving your best and at the same time you're difficult to get along with,then I begin to wonder what you expect from that relationship. The fact that Yasser was even hiding his involvement shows that he care still.

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Post by gali » 12 Jul 2017, 10:20

yellosteel wrote:I want you guys to know that it takes two to tango. If you are not giving your best and at the same time you're difficult to get along with,then I begin to wonder what you expect from that relationship. The fact that Yasser was even hiding his involvement shows that he care still.
Of course, but cheating is still wrong. isn't cheating. He hid his involvement because he knew he was in the wrong. I don't think he cared about his wife at that point.
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Post by yellosteel » 12 Jul 2017, 10:31

Am not saying its not,but the fact still remains that for a marriage to be successful is a collective responsibility of the partners.

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Post by gali » 12 Jul 2017, 11:27

yellosteel wrote:Am not saying its not,but the fact still remains that for a marriage to be successful is a collective responsibility of the partners.
I agree with that. :)
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Post by klbradley » 12 Jul 2017, 12:30

I agree, its still cheating. But talking usually ends up with more emotions than something physical, and I think an emotional affair would be more painful than a physical affair.
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Post by gali » 12 Jul 2017, 12:35

klbradley wrote:I agree, its still cheating. But talking usually ends up with more emotions than something physical, and I think an emotional affair would be more painful than a physical affair.
Indeed, an emotional affair would be more painful.
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Post by stalliongirlke » 12 Jul 2017, 13:06

infidelity always begins in the mind, and the fact that he retreated at the last minute doesn't absorb him of infidelity.

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Post by Amutinda » 12 Jul 2017, 13:20

I think its a matter of emotional stress, you find relief from someone else rather than your partner

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Post by gali » 12 Jul 2017, 13:24

stalliongirlke wrote:infidelity always begins in the mind, and the fact that he retreated at the last minute doesn't absorb him of infidelity.
I agree! And he only retreated when he saw his lover was homeless.

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Amutinda wrote:I think its a matter of emotional stress, you find relief from someone else rather than your partner
It still doesn't justify it, in my view.
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Post by Emmaky » 12 Jul 2017, 14:59

I totally agree it was cheating. As long as you've thought about it then you are in your way to cheating.
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Post by gali » 13 Jul 2017, 00:45

Emmaky wrote:I totally agree it was cheating. As long as you've thought about it then you are in your way to cheating.
A good point!
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Post by hsimone » 13 Jul 2017, 05:18

gali wrote:
Amutinda wrote:I think its a matter of emotional stress, you find relief from someone else rather than your partner
It still doesn't justify it, in my view.
I agree with gali on this one. If you "have to" find "relief from someone else rather than your partner", then you shouldn't be with that partner. At that point, you are not partners anymore because not only is the first person cheating, but he/she is also lying everyday. Then the next question is - what kind of relationship is based on a lie?
"Love is patient, love is kind." -1 Corinthians 13:4

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Post by gali » 15 Jul 2017, 01:24

hsimone wrote:
gali wrote:
Amutinda wrote:I think its a matter of emotional stress, you find relief from someone else rather than your partner
It still doesn't justify it, in my view.
I agree with gali on this one. If you "have to" find "relief from someone else rather than your partner", then you shouldn't be with that partner. At that point, you are not partners anymore because not only is the first person cheating, but he/she is also lying everyday. Then the next question is - what kind of relationship is based on a lie?
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Post by Kinnera » 15 Jul 2017, 20:50

Cheating isn't necessarily physical to me. Mental attachment counts as infidelity too.
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Post by gali » 15 Jul 2017, 23:46

daikin03101996 wrote:Cheating isn't necessarily physical to me. Mental attachment counts as infidelity too.
Ditto!
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