Fidelity vs. infidelity

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Shireks Nancy wrote:To me, it is not cheating until it is physical Everyone makes mistakes, but if someone can go back at the last minute, then I don't think they should be held liable.
I agree with you.
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Shireks Nancy wrote:To me, it is not cheating until it is physical Everyone makes mistakes, but if someone can go back at the last minute, then I don't think they should be held liable.
I disagree. Yassir had sex calls with his lover and would have realized the affair if his lover wasn't homeless.

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It doesn't matter if it wasn't physical. Emotional attachment is cheating too. And am sure he would have slept with her if she had a decent house. The only thing that prevented him from doing it was the living condition of Isabella.
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I do find emotional fidelity important. Just because the husband didn't actually bang the secretary, constantly flirting with her and thinking about her makes it just as bad as the deed itself.
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Emotional cheating is still cheating.
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To me it was an affair. I think emotional attachments alone without physical contacts is even worse because the "cheater" will neither be in a real affair nor real marriage.
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I believe that although he wasn't in a physical relationship with her it was still cheating. He was emotionally involved with her and in that way, he had been unfaithful to his wife.
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I still say that it doesn't count as an affair. He was no way of getting out of the marriage since he didn't want the kids to be affected adversely, so this was the only option left to relieve the stress. And he didn't materialize the relationship because he felt it was wrong. IF it were about her living conditions, he could easily have taken her t a hotel or somewhere like that.
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Emotional talk is even dangerous than a physical one. It is better to choose your words wisely while relating to another person who is not your spouse.
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That was infidelity. There's emotional cheating involved and it eventually led to his first meeting with Isabelle. Hadn't she been a poor homeless woman, I believe the story would have had a totally different ending.
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Even do there was no physical relationship as long as he was fleeting with another woman whom is not his wife it is considered as cheating.
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That is definitely emotional cheating
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It was infidelity. You cannot justify cheating. It is just wrong.
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It is cheating. Those thoughts and words should be shared with his wife only. He retreated only because of the girl living condition. He never acknowledged that what he did was wrong.
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It was definitely cheating. I think he should have had to face more consequences for his actions.
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