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Yeah.. pretty much everything Gali and Hsimone said. No excuse for it in my book. If one partner has issues and sees cheating as an option, that is their problem and not their partners fault at all.
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It's an emotional betrayal in my opinion. It's cheating because it undermines his bond with his wife and threatens the stability of the marriage. Physical stuff would just be a cherry on the cheating cake.
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What Yaser did is classified as emotional cheating. Affairs / infidelity are not only limited to physical intimacy.
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If I hear lol
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I agree that even though it wasn't a physical affair, it was definitely an emotional affair. My rule is: If you wouldn't do it in front of your wife, you shouldn't be doing it at all.
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I think it is cheating. It doesn't have to necessarily be a physical affair, or contact in order for it to be it. In my book, that is considered cheating.
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hsimone wrote:
gali wrote:
Amutinda wrote:I think its a matter of emotional stress, you find relief from someone else rather than your partner
It still doesn't justify it, in my view.
I agree with gali on this one. If you "have to" find "relief from someone else rather than your partner", then you shouldn't be with that partner. At that point, you are not partners anymore because not only is the first person cheating, but he/she is also lying everyday. Then the next question is - what kind of relationship is based on a lie?
The marriage was already over and the only reason he didn't go for a divorce was because of the kids.
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gali wrote:Ssinghal raised an interesting point. According to him, "what Yasser did doesn't count as an affair, as he did not have any physical relationship with his lover". I think it is still cheating, even if he didn't realize the affair. And he did try, but he retreated at the last minute. What do you think?
Actually this was cheating, I agree, but still I can't blame Yaser. He had a lot of stress and Isabelle was his pain killer. If your own wife has turned to be something else, what do you do? Thank God he changed his mind.
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What Yasser did,though was wrong,cannot be considered as cheating simply because it does not qualify as an affair,as such, i disagreed with the notion that his was a case of outright infidelity.
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Ssinghal wrote:
hsimone wrote:
gali wrote:

It still doesn't justify it, in my view.
I agree with gali on this one. If you "have to" find "relief from someone else rather than your partner", then you shouldn't be with that partner. At that point, you are not partners anymore because not only is the first person cheating, but he/she is also lying everyday. Then the next question is - what kind of relationship is based on a lie?
The marriage was already over and the only reason he didn't go for a divorce was because of the kids.
They were technically still married though. If they both felt that way then why wasn't his wife cheating too?
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Post by MrsCatInTheHat »

gali wrote:Ssinghal raised an interesting point. According to him, "what Yasser did doesn't count as an affair, as he did not have any physical relationship with his lover". I think it is still cheating, even if he didn't realize the affair. And he did try, but he retreated at the last minute. What do you think?
I would personally consider it cheating if my husband engaged in that type of behavior. It would be a major issue in our marriage, one that might end the marriage.

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yellosteel wrote:Am not saying its not,but the fact still remains that for a marriage to be successful is a collective responsibility of the partners.
Reacting to the issues by cheating does not solve the problem.
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You do not have to have to have a physical relationship for it to be cheating. Thats it. No gray areas.
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To me, it is not cheating until it is physical Everyone makes mistakes, but if someone can go back at the last minute, then I don't think they should be held liable.
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Emilyflint wrote:You do not have to have to have a physical relationship for it to be cheating. Thats it. No gray areas.
I do agree with you! :tiphat: :tiphat:
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Post by Pm7lucas »

Yassir absolutely had an affair from my perspective...you don't have to have physical contact to cheat!

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