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Post by Yaa Hughes » 21 Jul 2017, 12:58

An abusive relationship is not worth staying to fix whether there are kids involved or not. After a few tries to make things works and there is no improvement, i will exit to be safer than sorry.

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Post by EDDY OKOTH » 21 Jul 2017, 16:09

relationship is good and its basic for survival

-- 21 Jul 2017, 16:12 --

relationships are source of hapiness in one life

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Post by living » 21 Jul 2017, 17:02

well you all are, especially getting 200% in a relationship matters a lot as it determines who you'll spend your life time with... relationship can easily be broken but marriage would probably not be easy especially when children are involve, it would still be easy to divorce but when love is greater I think it can cover and endure the pains... but it all depends on the maltreatment involved most men can be so killing

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Post by Joyce oniza » 21 Jul 2017, 17:22

I agree with Nadia,u cannot sacrifice your happiness because of a man, your kids can have a better life if only you don't give up on yourself.

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Post by jonavelle camo » 21 Jul 2017, 21:38

I salute those who's willing to sacrifice his/her life just for the sake of their kids, but for me you dont have to sacrifice yourself just to prove your love to your kids,you have to love yourself either,if you can stand alone and raise them on your own so no reason for you to stay in that kind of relationship.

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Post by Naftal Gwaro » 21 Jul 2017, 22:49

Totally agree with you Nadia needs a better future.

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Post by Cutienerdy21 » 22 Jul 2017, 00:52

I highly support Nadia's view

For me, Nadia's situation is dire and needs to get out of it immediately. It's not healthy for her and to all those around her, including her children, to stay. I think the consequences and memories it will bring will be more traumatic and painful to the children than having a broken home. That's what I would feel if I were in the children's shoes.
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Post by Dh_ » 22 Jul 2017, 15:19

masterhawk88 wrote:Both actually. I'd never stand for abuse, but on the other hand, for my kids I think I'd try to make an unfulfilling relationship work.
I completely agree. Abuse is not something I would tolerate, but I don't have children so I don't know what I would do for them.
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Post by yellosteel » 22 Jul 2017, 18:49

Dh_ wrote:
masterhawk88 wrote:Both actually. I'd never stand for abuse, but on the other hand, for my kids I think I'd try to make an unfulfilling relationship work.

This is great and rare indeed!... Sacrificial love kind of. Its better to try and make things work rather than just walking out.

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Post by raizenagallo » 23 Jul 2017, 03:13

There is no point in staying in an abusive relationship because it does not only affect you physically but it also has an effect on your children psychologically. If you stay in such a relationship, you are also showing your children that it is okay and tolerable to be in that situation. As a mother, I believe that we should be a good role model for our children and show them that we should not tolerate abuse in the household.
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Post by Faisal ali » 23 Jul 2017, 05:50

I am with nadia side....because abuse is a very bad habbit....

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Post by Roada » 23 Jul 2017, 09:25

gali wrote:We have two set of relationships in this book. On one hand, we have Nadia who believes that one should not stay in an abusing relationship for the sake of the kids. Do not mistake, though, she loves her son more than life itself and would do anything to make him happy. On the other hand, we have Yaser who is just the opposite of her. He sacrifices his honor and stays in an unfulfilling marriage for his children's sake. I support Nadia's view. Which side are you? How would you act?

...i agreee with Yeser...I'd put my childrens first then myself...just stay in the unfulfilling relationship for them to get their fathers love...

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Post by El-kanah » 23 Jul 2017, 11:51

Hmm, I would rather stay in the relationship for the sake of my children. Parents have a lot to do in a child upbringing. Moreover, the children weren't there when you two started the relationship, so, the current state of relationship shouldn't affect your children's lives.
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Post by magicquill » 24 Jul 2017, 01:43

I'm on Nadia's side, I also can't tolerate abuse. It's just not right. Children will see it as right if you don't avoid it. Being in an abusive relationship is not being advocated. It's important that you set a good example for your children.
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Post by Mpimba » 24 Jul 2017, 03:40

I agree with you. should not be in a abusive relationship because it may harm the innocence kids. Also, parents cannot keep kids in a healthy environment if there unhealthy relationship.

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