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AliceofX wrote:I think their situations are too different to compare because abuse is not the same as neglect. That said I'd probably say Yaser's side. My parents split up when I was about 10 or 11, and there are just no words to explain the pain that comes from a broken home.

I agree with you, growing up in a broken home myself. It was very difficult being raised by a single parent and I really appreciate my mother for raising 3 kids on her own. We may not know the reason for their separation, this is not something that I would want for my children or anyone else's.
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Post by judith kkerubo »

In this question, it's obvious that various answers are expected depending on how each individual views relationship and marriage.
I side with none but I agree with them in one thing, they have sacrificed their freedom and happiness for the sake of their children.
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I would never stay in an abusive relationship, especially with my kids. I would want to keep them safe as well. Abusers are known to escalate. What if they started hurting your kids? Why risk it.
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I think that if one is in an abusive relationship and has child/ren, one should leave asap. Think of what you are teaching the child/ren about relationships!
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I agree that Nadia should not have stayed in the abusive relationship. It is not healthy for anybody (with or without kids).
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I'm in the view of Nadia because, what's the point of living a life without peace and happiness. It's okay to love your kids, but don't stop your life because of it.
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I think it hurts kids more to stay in an abusive relationship for sure, but the unfulfilling relationship is more of a case-by-case basis. There is still some hope for things to improve if both parties are willing.
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I think that the situations are too different to compare. I agree with Nadie's choice of leaving an abusive relationship and I believe that it's best to leave a marriage where you're not happy and don't know how to make it work because although a separation is extremely painful for the children I think that having two happy parents is far better than having two unhappy parents. As that shapes the kind of environment the children grow up in, one filled with fake smiles and fights behind closed doors.
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masterhawk88 wrote:Both actually. I'd never stand for abuse, but on the other hand, for my kids I think I'd try to make an unfulfilling relationship work.
I entirely agree. Children need both parents. But once there's an understanding of the state of the relationship between the neglected couple so that both can work on it and neither lives in fairytale land thinking all is ok.
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i think that for the sake of the children, one should not stay in an abusive relationship.
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Well I read this status . And my remarks are that Both have their own mentality and its also true that every parent can do any thi g or bear anything for the sake of their children . :hand:
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I am in total support to Nadia's view...an abusive relationship and cause a whole lots of traumas. Is better to sit the kids down given them tangible reasons why the relationship wouldn't work for mum and dad.
Sometimes going separate ways is quite better than striving and sacrificing ones happiness all in the name of raising a better family
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It all depends on the point of view actually. Some may say that Nadia is right, and other may support Yasser. It all comes down to this. You shouldn't stay in a relationship wherein you lose your won self-respect and dignity. that's all that matters...
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single life is the best !
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If we look at this from society's point of view, it is a hush hush topic. Often left to be resolved by the couple themselves and not to intrude. But if a relationship has even a small percentage of abuse in it, to me it has failed terribly. Abuse brings mental stress as well as physical on the person on both sides. It is nearly impossible to forget and it is bound to happen again. Better to just break it while its still early.
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