How do you overcome indifference?

Discuss the May 2017 Book of the Month, Farmer Beau's Farm by Kathleen Geiger.

View Farmer Beau's Farm on Bookshelves
User avatar
Donnavila Marie01
Posts: 930
Joined: 19 Dec 2016, 02:39
2017 Reading Goal: 50
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 42
Currently Reading: the one
Bookshelf Size: 90
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-donnavila-marie01.html
Latest Review: "America, It Was Just An Idea" by Dr. Rayna M. Gangi

How do you overcome indifference?

Post by Donnavila Marie01 » 13 May 2017, 18:55

Marrissa, the giraffe, was eventually accepted by the other animals in the farm. But first, she experienced a little bit of indifference. How do you overcome indifference?
Latest Review: "America, It Was Just An Idea" by Dr. Rayna M. Gangi

User avatar
Amagine
Posts: 5441
Joined: 04 Mar 2017, 19:27
2017 Reading Goal: 400
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 45
Favorite Author: James Patterson
Bookshelf Size: 726
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-amagine.html
Latest Review: "Salome and Gogo visit Soweto" by Cora Groenewald
Reading Device: B00IKPYKWG
fav_author_id: 3251

Post by Amagine » 14 May 2017, 09:19

I just continue to be myself. If people like me, that's great. If not, it's their loss not mine.
"Piglet noticed that even though he had a very small heart, it could hold a rather large amount of gratitude." -A.A Milne

"I am grateful for all the books that sparked my imagination." -Unknown
Latest Review: "Salome and Gogo visit Soweto" by Cora Groenewald

User avatar
ifeoma obike
Posts: 120
Joined: 17 Mar 2017, 13:35
Bookshelf Size: 6
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-ifeoma-obike.html
Latest Review: "Escape" by Belle Ami

Post by ifeoma obike » 15 May 2017, 03:18

I treat people the way they treat me. If people act like I don't exist or matter, I show them the same attitude.
Latest Review: "Escape" by Belle Ami

User avatar
gaporter
Posts: 244
Joined: 03 Oct 2015, 13:47
2018 Reading Goal: 50
2017 Reading Goal: 50
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 20
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 64
Currently Reading:
Bookshelf Size: 112
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-gaporter.html
Latest Review: Lives of Museum Junkies by Marilynne Eichinger
Reading Device: B0051VVOB2

Post by gaporter » 15 May 2017, 12:12

This is a tricky question, I think it depends entirely on the circumstances. For the giraffe in the book, she started to cry at the other animals teasing, and they began to relate to her. But crying would not be appropriate in many real-life situations!

Scerakor
Posts: 807
Joined: 13 May 2013, 13:43
2018 Reading Goal: 52
2017 Reading Goal: 52
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 30
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 90
Currently Reading:
Bookshelf Size: 135
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-scerakor.html
Latest Review: Betrayal of Justice by Mark M. Bello

Post by Scerakor » 15 May 2017, 13:38

Amagine wrote:I just continue to be myself. If people like me, that's great. If not, it's their loss not mine.
I think that this is both the right, and at the same time, the wrong answer. It is the right answer as it is the ideal one where a confident, outgoing, non-affected person would be the target. In this situation just being able to brush off-handed comments away is definitely idea. Unfortunately, everyone is not so confident to be able to do this.

User avatar
hsimone
Lilimaster of Bookshelves
Posts: 5425
Joined: 17 Jul 2015, 20:19
2018 Reading Goal: 100
2017 Reading Goal: 100
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 86
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 96
Currently Reading: Lair of Dreams
Bookshelf Size: 445
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-hsimone.html
Latest Review: The Slippery Slope of Consequences by Nati Carrillo
Publishing Contest Votes: 27

Post by hsimone » 17 May 2017, 13:45

ifeoma obike wrote:I treat people the way they treat me. If people act like I don't exist or matter, I show them the same attitude.
I feel this would be me, too. Being who I am, I most likely would not make the extra effort if no one else is. This may not be the most ideal way to handle the situation, but I think my shyness would just take over.
"Love is patient, love is kind." -1 Corinthians 13:4

User avatar
Subnavigation54
Posts: 28
Joined: 15 May 2017, 13:18
2017 Reading Goal: 7
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 14
Bookshelf Size: 0

Post by Subnavigation54 » 17 May 2017, 15:00

I don't try hard to be liked and I don't invest my time and the effort for people to like me. I'm experienced enough to be able to figure out people and can say immediately which kind likes me, and which doesn't, so I act accordingly.

User avatar
katiesquilts
Previous Member of the Month
Posts: 578
Joined: 20 Aug 2015, 20:10
2018 Reading Goal: 25
2017 Reading Goal: 25
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 120
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 64
Currently Reading: A Game of Thrones
Bookshelf Size: 614
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-katiesquilts.html
Latest Review: Simon Says by William Poe

Post by katiesquilts » 19 May 2017, 21:58

ifeoma obike wrote:I treat people the way they treat me. If people act like I don't exist or matter, I show them the same attitude.
I agree! Although there are some times when I know the other person has had a bad day or something is frustrating them. At those times, I try to be a little more understanding and kind even though I don't feel like I'm being treated fairly.

User avatar
MontyQ
Posts: 31
Joined: 11 Apr 2016, 17:38
2018 Reading Goal: 5
2017 Reading Goal: 10
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 30
Currently Reading: Kushiel's Dart
Bookshelf Size: 17
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-montyq.html
Latest Review: "Strong Heart" by Charlie Sheldon
Reading Device: B01AZ7LT20

Post by MontyQ » 20 May 2017, 00:08

Fake it till you make it.
Eventually it'll come automatically.
Latest Review: "Strong Heart" by Charlie Sheldon

User avatar
NICA ALBERT RANCES
Posts: 8
Joined: 20 May 2017, 00:56
Currently Reading: They'll Never Die
Bookshelf Size: 4

Post by NICA ALBERT RANCES » 20 May 2017, 01:41

Learning to love yourself is the most easy way to conquere it. Be positive then

User avatar
Betchay
Posts: 4
Joined: 20 May 2017, 04:16
Bookshelf Size: 0

Post by Betchay » 20 May 2017, 04:54

I set my temper to call down. tried to understand once behaviour and charteristic.

User avatar
Anirudh Badri
Posts: 251
Joined: 03 Jun 2017, 14:49
2017 Reading Goal: 100
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 24
Currently Reading: Quiet
Bookshelf Size: 44
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-anirudh-badri.html
Latest Review: A Hole in Science: An Opening for an Alternative Understanding of Life by Ted Christopher

Post by Anirudh Badri » 06 Jun 2017, 14:09

It largely depends on the context and the situation. It is possible that indifference is the default response of a group on meeting someone new, or that their indifference is based on factors external to my behavior. In that case, I would be perfectly alright with it, and just like Marrissa, I would be reasonably confident of it wearing of eventually. If it is explicitly directed towards me, then I would probably react in kind.

User avatar
Kalin Adi
Posts: 1116
Joined: 01 May 2017, 14:29
2018 Reading Goal: 15
2017 Reading Goal: 5
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 93
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 680
Currently Reading: A Bundle of Colorful Yarns
Bookshelf Size: 120
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-kalin-adi.html
Latest Review: Animals teach us life by Nabi Gueye

Post by Kalin Adi » 29 Jun 2017, 23:34

I haven't had many situations in which I experience indifference. I think how I react depends on my mood that day. I've sometimes just turned a blind eye to the situation, while other times, I just try to bring up a topic that is exciting so people feel motivated to say an opinion about it. Other times, I just try to be funny, but not crazy funny.

User avatar
raikyuu
Posts: 230
Joined: 28 Jun 2017, 21:19
2017 Reading Goal: 30
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 116
Favorite Book: <a href="http://forums.onlinebookclub.org/shelve ... =3079">The Republic</a>
Currently Reading: A History of Western Philosophy
Bookshelf Size: 42
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-raikyuu.html
Latest Review: "Sho-Rap Highway" by Robin Whiteplume

Post by raikyuu » 03 Jul 2017, 08:25

ifeoma obike wrote:I treat people the way they treat me. If people act like I don't exist or matter, I show them the same attitude.
I can relate to this much. It's hard to change the minds of a group of people, especially if I'm just by myself. But if those people are worth it, then I should try harder.
What should I do with my life?

"You don't have to do anything."
Latest Review: "Sho-Rap Highway" by Robin Whiteplume

User avatar
ritah
Posts: 537
Joined: 24 Jun 2017, 06:52
2018 Reading Goal: 150
2017 Reading Goal: 20
2018 Reading Goal Completion: 22
2017 Reading Goal Completion: 80
Favorite Book: <a href="http://forums.onlinebookclub.org/shelve ... 03345">The Darziods' Stone</a>
Currently Reading:
Bookshelf Size: 133
Reviewer Page: onlinebookclub.org/reviews/by-ritah.html
Latest Review: Return to sender by Amir fathi

Post by ritah » 24 Jul 2017, 13:40

I would embrace those that accept me and stay away from those that treat me with indifference - heck, if that's everybody then I'm a loner! Haha.

Post Reply

Return to “Discuss "Farmer Beau's Farm" by Kathleen Geiger”