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e-tasana-williams wrote:
hsimone wrote:Kailey and Sammy were reluctant to become friends with Malissa, at first. They changed their minds once they realized that everyone needs a home and someone to love them.

Have you ever experienced a time when you met someone new and was reluctant at first to become friends? At what age was this? Did you ever become friends with this person? Why or why not?
It's funny you should ask this question. As a child I think making friends was not such a big deal...we were thrown into situations where everyone joined in to play a game, or work on a project, etc. As an adult I find it more difficult. The situations don't always present themselves, and making friends requires more initiative be taken. One particular situation involves the mom of my son's classmate. I was reluctant to approach her at first because of time constraints, lifestyle differences, etc. But through her initiative we have become friends, and now our children spend the night at each other's homes.
I really appreciate that you brought this up, because it is exactly how I feel about meeting other people as an adult. As children you have a much broader friend group, but I believe that as we grow older it becomes harder to find new friends and so we are more careful about those we allow into our lives.
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It has absolutely become more difficult for me to develop friendships as I've grown older. I was not a particularly outgoing child, but I think it's easier to slip into friendships with your peers when you're in school and socializing is actually emphasized. My two closest friendships, now as an adult in my mid-twenties, are ones I developed as a child. I've grown more particular about the kind of people I want to spend to time with and my "socializing" efforts are somewhat more limited than when I was a child or a college student. I've become decidedly more introverted and set in my ways as I've aged. Something I'm working on!
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This always happens to me. One of my fears is rejection. This makes me reluctant to approach someone but I also reserve a room for friendship if I feel accepted by that person.
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Donnavila Marie01 wrote:This always happens to me. One of my fears is rejection. This makes me reluctant to approach someone but I also reserve a room for friendship if I feel accepted by that person.
That must be what I fear (at or least, part of what I fear), as well - rejection. But, like you, I am always willing to open up to a friendship if I feel accepted. Thank you for pointing that out because I couldn't pinpoint it before.
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Sometimes, I have to trust my instinct about a new person or about a stranger. I hired a staff in my office even if I have had doubts. In the end, I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt because I tried to rationalize that maybe, she is not egoistic at all and maybe she will perform well. She turned out to be one of my problems.
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Donnavila Marie01 wrote:Sometimes, I have to trust my instinct about a new person or about a stranger. I hired a staff in my office even if I have had doubts. In the end, I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt because I tried to rationalize that maybe, she is not egoistic at all and maybe she will perform well. She turned out to be one of my problems.
I like that you have her a fair chance when meeting her. Sometimes it's easier to form an opinion about someone without taking the time to get to know them first.
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i dont really hav a problem meeting someone New... but sometimes there is caution
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8) I love meeting and making new friends where ever i go Because God is love.
and we are His Children.
Lest92 wrote:I'm very people-shy so making friends is not easy for me. I tend to keep to the few I do have.
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As a very young child, it was easy to make friends but once school started it was not so easy. It's never really been easy since then. I find it much easier meeting people now as I have gotten older and more confident but it still takes a lot for me to make very close friends.
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hsimone wrote:
Have you ever experienced a time when you met someone new and was reluctant at first to become friends? At what age was this? Did you ever become friends with this person? Why or why not?
I seem to be reluctant to become friends with anyone I meet for the first time. I usually have my guard up and don't trust people easily. Nowadays it seems like my peers are eager to add you on social media or exchange numbers to text each other as soon as they meet each other. I am still not comfortable doing this right away. Sometimes I can tell if I will click with someone, and will make an effort to get to know them better. There were times when I thought I wanted to become friends with someone who ended up being too demanding and dependent on our friendship. It was too much unnecessaryeffort to continue with this type of friendship for me.
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This happens to me almost all of the time. Sometimes you will meet someone new who seemed like you have very different personalities with each other. You will never know if you will really "click" with a certain person unless you'll try to chat them up and see if you really can become friends.
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I consider myself a sociable person; however, I occasionally meet someone that gives me a bad vibration and it is a little hard to become friends with. Interestingly enough, it happens with women never with men. Why does this happen? I do not know. Nevertheless, almost always, it turns out that person is not good.
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I was 13-14 and I met this guy that was reluctant to become my friend but I considered him a friend from the get go.
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gali wrote:When I was little I was reluctant to become friends with anyone, but it became easier as an adult.
That's the exact opposite of me! I was a cheeky and jolly kid. I was called a "tomboy" because I used to hang out with boys and play prank games with them. Now, I got a hard time on how to begin a conversation with anyone and how to approach them. I was 5 when I was a social butterfly.
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As a kid I was shy I did not make friends. I'd rather stay in my room and read than play with other children a character that continued even to adulthood. My best friend is of over 15 years when we were in high school she approached me and became friendly at first I was reluctant but with time I started bonding with her and I can say we are best of friends upto date.
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