Review of The Unfakeable Code®
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Review of The Unfakeable Code®
[Following is a volunteer review of "The Unfakeable Code®" by Tony Jeton Selimi.]
As someone who has always struggled with social anxiety, fitting in, and just feeling like I had to wear a mask 24/7, Tony Jeton Selimi’s “The Unfakeable Code®" honestly felt like it was written for people like me. I’m a junior in college, majoring in computer science, and I have spent most of my life trying to be what I thought people wanted me to be. Friendly but not too much. Smart but not “try-hard.” Normal but not boring. You get the idea.
What makes this book different is that it doesn’t just throw clichés at you like “be yourself” or “love who you are.” It actually breaks down why we wear masks, how we got programmed to do it in the first place, and, most importantly, how to stop. The author compares the human mind to a computer system, with coding that has been installed from childhood by parents, society, religion, and culture. That metaphor made so much sense to me, especially with my tech background. It was like he gave me the blueprint to hack my own brain and rewrite the parts that weren’t working for me anymore.
The book walks you through a kind of mental and emotional “reprogramming.” It’s not preachy or pushy. It’s like he is talking to you, not at you. What really stood out is how much of the book is grounded in real-life experience. It’s clear he’s been through stuff, family trauma, identity struggles, even homelessness, and it shows in how deeply he understands the pain of feeling fake, disconnected, or invisible.
What I appreciated most is that the book doesn’t promise quick fixes. It doesn’t act like there is some magical mantra that’s going to change your life overnight. Instead, it lays out practical, honest steps to slowly, thoughtfully unpack all the garbage we have been carrying. There is a strong emotional intelligence component too, he explains how your thoughts, words, and emotions are linked, and how even subtle shifts in language can start to change how you see yourself.
It surprised me is how professionally written and edited it is. Like, this isn’t your typical self-pub with typos or rambling. It’s clean, tight, and well-structured. But it’s also personal. You can tell the author didn’t just write this to sound smart, he wrote it to help people. It’s packed with stories, metaphors, and exercises that don’t just explain the ideas but actually help you feel them. I found myself rereading parts, not because they were hard to understand, but because they made me feel seen in a way I hadn’t felt before.
From around the middle of the book, I started noticing changes in how I was thinking. I caught myself less in those “what will people think?” spirals. I started checking in with myself more, asking real questions like “Is this me talking, or is this the scared version of me trying to avoid rejection?” It’s subtle, but it’s been powerful.
Another thing I want to mention is how he challenges the reader to stop just surviving and start thriving. That hit home. I realized how much of my daily routine was based on just getting through the day, not actually building a life that feels meaningful. The book helped me see that I had a lot more control than I thought, I was just giving it away, day after day, by pretending to be someone I’m not.
Toward the end, it shifts into more spiritual territory, not religious, but more like understanding your place in the world and choosing love over fear. I know that might sound fluffy, but it’s actually really grounded. It doesn’t feel like he is selling a belief system but encouraging you to question everything you have accepted without thought. And that’s been huge for me.
In terms of rating, I have no hesitation giving this book a 5 out of 5. It did something that most books don’t, it made me want to be better, not in a performative way, but in a real way. It gave me the tools to start living a life that actually feels like mine.
I have read plenty of self-help books, but this one stood out because it respects your intelligence, your pain, and your journey. If you are someone who has ever felt lost in the noise of expectations, or like you are just playing a part instead of actually living, this book might be exactly what you didn’t know you needed. It was for me.
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The Unfakeable Code®
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon | on iTunes
As someone who has always struggled with social anxiety, fitting in, and just feeling like I had to wear a mask 24/7, Tony Jeton Selimi’s “The Unfakeable Code®" honestly felt like it was written for people like me. I’m a junior in college, majoring in computer science, and I have spent most of my life trying to be what I thought people wanted me to be. Friendly but not too much. Smart but not “try-hard.” Normal but not boring. You get the idea.
What makes this book different is that it doesn’t just throw clichés at you like “be yourself” or “love who you are.” It actually breaks down why we wear masks, how we got programmed to do it in the first place, and, most importantly, how to stop. The author compares the human mind to a computer system, with coding that has been installed from childhood by parents, society, religion, and culture. That metaphor made so much sense to me, especially with my tech background. It was like he gave me the blueprint to hack my own brain and rewrite the parts that weren’t working for me anymore.
The book walks you through a kind of mental and emotional “reprogramming.” It’s not preachy or pushy. It’s like he is talking to you, not at you. What really stood out is how much of the book is grounded in real-life experience. It’s clear he’s been through stuff, family trauma, identity struggles, even homelessness, and it shows in how deeply he understands the pain of feeling fake, disconnected, or invisible.
What I appreciated most is that the book doesn’t promise quick fixes. It doesn’t act like there is some magical mantra that’s going to change your life overnight. Instead, it lays out practical, honest steps to slowly, thoughtfully unpack all the garbage we have been carrying. There is a strong emotional intelligence component too, he explains how your thoughts, words, and emotions are linked, and how even subtle shifts in language can start to change how you see yourself.
It surprised me is how professionally written and edited it is. Like, this isn’t your typical self-pub with typos or rambling. It’s clean, tight, and well-structured. But it’s also personal. You can tell the author didn’t just write this to sound smart, he wrote it to help people. It’s packed with stories, metaphors, and exercises that don’t just explain the ideas but actually help you feel them. I found myself rereading parts, not because they were hard to understand, but because they made me feel seen in a way I hadn’t felt before.
From around the middle of the book, I started noticing changes in how I was thinking. I caught myself less in those “what will people think?” spirals. I started checking in with myself more, asking real questions like “Is this me talking, or is this the scared version of me trying to avoid rejection?” It’s subtle, but it’s been powerful.
Another thing I want to mention is how he challenges the reader to stop just surviving and start thriving. That hit home. I realized how much of my daily routine was based on just getting through the day, not actually building a life that feels meaningful. The book helped me see that I had a lot more control than I thought, I was just giving it away, day after day, by pretending to be someone I’m not.
Toward the end, it shifts into more spiritual territory, not religious, but more like understanding your place in the world and choosing love over fear. I know that might sound fluffy, but it’s actually really grounded. It doesn’t feel like he is selling a belief system but encouraging you to question everything you have accepted without thought. And that’s been huge for me.
In terms of rating, I have no hesitation giving this book a 5 out of 5. It did something that most books don’t, it made me want to be better, not in a performative way, but in a real way. It gave me the tools to start living a life that actually feels like mine.
I have read plenty of self-help books, but this one stood out because it respects your intelligence, your pain, and your journey. If you are someone who has ever felt lost in the noise of expectations, or like you are just playing a part instead of actually living, this book might be exactly what you didn’t know you needed. It was for me.
******
The Unfakeable Code®
View: on Bookshelves | on Amazon | on iTunes
