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[Following is a volunteer review of "Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid" by Dr. Rachel Sims.]

We've heard enough about the power of love throughout our lives, in different parts of the world, and for several generations. It's time to delve into the logical, sensible, and wiser aspects of love, its accessories, relationship management, dos and don'ts, and—above all—myths. It's important to explore and dispel these myths to gain perspective, adjust to the realities of relationships, and find fulfilling love. Nine chapters make up the book, each dispelling forty-five falsehoods and providing viewpoints on the subjects it covers. To provide readers with a thorough understanding of the book and its contents, I have highlighted other significant topics and summarized a few titles.
 
First, the author explores the fundamentals of love, focusing on the roles played by specific characters and their ongoing choices to support their partners instead of generalizing their conduct and offering justifications based on gender. Even if opinions on romantic relationships may differ, it is still important to make constructive contributions.
 
Social media and dating apps are leading the pack when it comes to modern love. Social media's attractive appearance has led to its recognition as a platform for true love or adorable couples. Their vlogs and postings showcase their adorable and healthy relationship, promoting perfectionism and steering clear of unfavorable situations. It gives a standard example of a perfect couple, which leads to confusion for others because it portrays a world of competition, unrealistic expectations, pressure to compare partners, and all these potential negative outcomes. Rather than viewing dating as a gradual process where we give each other space to express ourselves, we often perceive it as an immediate action-reaction center. To choose who will watch TV with you on a sofa in the morning before your eyes become blurry, just swipe right or left. Selecting dating apps has many advantages, but a responsible dating life requires time and patience.
 
Next, the author narrated dating-related myths, like the notion that "your perfect match is out there." We must first admit that perfection is a fabrication. Every relationship is unique; as time goes on, your tastes will change, and your partners will develop as people. As a result, develop a passion and set aside time for your relationships, keeping in mind that each individual is unique, prone to change, and that true work is required for commitment. Here's another: "Always play hard to get." If you hear this within a short distance, just flee, find a place to sit, and consider your next course of action. Does taking the time to inquire or reply make you feel better, or does acting quickly make you feel worse? It is fine to consider your options and act appropriately.
 
In the relationship section, the author gave a few instances of partnerships that exemplified a kind of magical love. In the actual world, in addition to fate and magic, elements like proximity, resemblance, and reciprocation all contribute to the natural occurrence of attraction. Misconceptions about partnerships "Don't discuss exclusivity too early," which means we shouldn't ask where they're planning to book wedding venues on our first date. I'm joking; it's all about exceptions and deal-breaker discussions, but a lot depends on the needs and preferences of specific characters from the outset. Some people find it worse when they realize their partner is not ready for a meaningful commitment, even as they celebrate their third anniversary. So, they prefer to complete a questionnaire before committing to a relationship.
 
These are the generation myths, or, may I say, generation curses, that have dogged humans for ages and imprisoned them in an endless circle. "Hey, she will change once we marry." This is the biggest lie, because change won't happen overnight or under pressure, so it's pointless to expect orange juice from an apple.
Next up is the misconception that "having a baby will fix everything." Couples experiencing difficulties might introduce a new family member and establish a blog channel named "Messy Family," which showcases unhappy families. Rather than merely throwing the baby into the mix, it is both a duty and a fundamental human activity to provide a solid foundation for the child's healthy life.
Another myth is, "If your significant other acts flirtatiously, it's okay as long as they come home." It's crucial to keep in mind that couples have their limits, even though making this claim might be dangerous. Still, you should ask yourself whether you would tolerate your partner acting in the same way as you. The response will provide direction about the ethical course of action. There are many more fascinating subjects that the author covered with thorough narratives and examples.
 
I give this book a 5 out of 5 rating. The book's topic, "Debunking the Myths That Prevent You from Finding True Love," employs a clever move to engage readers and features a captivating reading experience. The author deserves praise for her skillful choice of topic, title titles, narrating techniques, wisecracks, debunking writing style, interspersed short tales, and final takeaways. Therefore, I didn't discover any problems or things that I didn't like about the book; everything that I liked was there. The editing team did a fantastic job delivering a book that is free of errors for a pleasant read.

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Are You Love Smart or Love Stupid
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The author explained very important myths that many people in relationships are battling with today. They think that they are exactly what causes a relationships to work and yet they are what makes them fail. Her discussion vote either examples.

I have always been against the idea of "love at first sight". You can't just feel love for someone at first sight like that. It is not love you feel, but just an attraction. Not every attraction can turn into love. Love is something that develops over time. It requires mutual understanding, respect, trust, and, most importantly, loyalty. Love has turned completely digital nowadays. It is not the appropriate kind of love because, in that way, people can present themselves to the other person in the way they want to be instead of how they really are. Love developed over lies won't last. It will collapse, and it will affect the lives of both parties adversely.
Anyway, thanks for the review.

There are many points covered in the book. The talk about love and relationships is interesting, and it seems that the author has delved into the details. Your review shows your good analysis of the book. I enjoyed reading it.

I am glad to know there is a book that debunks the myth's about love. Pure and simple love takes work and commitment on both sides. Your thorough review of this book shows that. The lack of editing errors is icing on the cake. Thank you for this informative review.

Thanks for your great review. The author shows many aspects of love, from feelings to logic. I appreciate the modern aspect with dating websites that can speed up love.

This book eloquently debunks common myths about love, providing insightful perspectives on modern relationships and dating dynamics. Through its engaging narrative style and practical examples, it challenges unrealistic expectations propagated by social media and dating apps. The author's approach encourages readers to rethink conventional wisdom, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and communication in fostering meaningful connections. With its comprehensive exploration of relationship dynamics and myths, this book earns a well-deserved 5-star rating for its educational value and engaging storytelling. Highly recommended for anyone navigating the complexities of modern love.