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Relationships are the most beautiful and intricate things that we build in our lives. Marriage is a pure union and a promise to be together forever. Life partners make vows and try to fulfill them through their marriage. However, things change, and efforts to fulfill these vows get minimal. The partners get stuck in an unhappy marriage and resort to divorce to get out of this pain. Stupid Divorce by Vincent Fudge II focuses on different aspects of a divorce and its impact on various factors of one’s life.
The book is a discussion on divorce and its different consequences. Edward and his wife Ebony were going through a very tumultuous relationship, but they still got married. This led to a very toxic marriage where they both were abusive, disrespectful, and inconsiderate to each other. Edward, not being able to give up, followed a methodology of SMART Love to decide whether Ebony and he were right for each other or not. Sadly, they were not at all compatible. Here’s when Edward came up with the description of divorce as STUPID and recognised the process of it to be selfish, time-consuming, unnerving, painful, inconsiderate, and debt-inducing. The book goes through many legal proceedings and discovery of the fundamental issues that cause a marriage to break apart beyond repair.
I really liked the book. The author bared his soul and was completely transparent about his failed marriage. I appreciate how he separately gave the actual conversations in some chapters. The conversations acted as a gateway to go through both sides. A very important issue he highlighted was how it’s not someone else’s responsibility to fix you until you do so yourself. Humans are insecure beings who deal with a wide range of negative emotions. An unhappy partner cannot bring happiness in marriage. The author laid out this harsh truth properly. He accepted his shortcomings and inability to put their marriage above his own ego. It was remarkable to witness this level of honesty and act of taking responsibility.
There is nothing I disliked about the book. Edward’s story teaches us that when two people take individual journeys to grow while being in a relationship, it won’t always end up with them being together. It shows that people sometimes outgrow the relationship they are in. It made us realize the reality that a divorce can cripple a person. It can put them into a spiral of negativity from where it’s so hard to come back. It can be easy for one person to move on and completely impossible for the other.
I rate this book four out of four stars. The author points out to find the swiftest and smoothest way to dissolve a marriage, to not indulge in self-destructive behavior, and to accept every outcome in order to finally move on. The silver lining to focus on is that no matter how bad it is, it always ends. The book is professionally edited.
I recommend this book to anyone who is going through a divorce. I’m sure that one can relate to over one aspect of this book. You will feel emotionally related to the author. One gets to know the basic procedure of a divorce and what it takes to go through it.
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