Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Post by Europeandescent1 » 25 Aug 2018, 17:20

For me, I cannot even think that someone does not read. It’s a given. On the other hand, if a person reads 24/7 that would be a deal breaker. He doesn’t need to be a book buddy and I wouldn’t be looking for a bookworm, but reading is a great barometer of common interest and common intellectual level I find vital.

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Post by PeaceLoveNature44 » 25 Aug 2018, 18:21

That would help, but then i'd have him reading something about what we do have in common. :) I can't imagine a place where he does not share a love of books. I don't want to have to explain why I have so many books, and my love of buying to many. ^_^
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Post by Joak25 » 26 Aug 2018, 12:52

Well I don't know really, I know we shouldn't base relationship on things like this but I would really love to know that someone I am involved with is smart enough to know that reading is part of living

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Post by Olivia Grace » 26 Aug 2018, 23:40

I have and it's usually not a problem because I discuss all books with my best friend l. And as long as the person I am dating understands how important books are to me, and doesn't mind, then I would date them :wink:

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Post by Joe Hadithi » 27 Aug 2018, 11:07

Easily. We are all allowed various interests and theirs could be something else.

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Post by Sdejardine » 28 Aug 2018, 23:39

I married a person who never reads. I remember buying him a book once. You know, for the bathroom. Nope didn’t even read that. It’s frustrating. But the good thing is he appreciates that I love it and gives me my space to read.

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Post by chapter-one » 29 Aug 2018, 08:36

I think I could date someone who didn't read, as having different interests is one of the things that make relationships so rich and interesting.

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Post by Gina-Renee15 » 29 Aug 2018, 13:04

:shock: I Wouldn't Even Dream Of Staying In The Same Breathing Space With Him Talk More Of Dating, Reading Is Like Air To Me. I Like Someone Who I Would Be Able To Dicuss Certain Topics With.

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Post by Italiansweety1982 » 30 Aug 2018, 14:23

No, they need to have half a brain and be able to hold a conversation. I don't mind if we like different types of books/magazines but they need to be exercising their brain.

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Post by ObsessedBookNerd » 30 Aug 2018, 21:51

I don’t think I could date someone who didn’t like to read. I would be fine even if it was only once in a while. Reading for me is like exploring a whole new world and being able to expand my imagination. So if the person I’m dating didn’t like to read I probably wouldn’t have much in common with them or would find them dull & boring.

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Post by Amyb77 » 31 Aug 2018, 13:03

I could date someone who doesn't read, but they will have to know not to interrupt my reading and know this is important to me.

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Post by Olive Branch Reader » 04 Sep 2018, 12:42

Interesting hypothetical. If I were single, young and available for a date: I would refuse to, even, entertain the idea of dating a non-reader. We would not have anything in common, I suppose.

My husband reads the classics (the hardbound, gold-gilded, browned-pages) from our antique collection, such as G.A. Henty's historical novels. Whenever he engages himself in reading and pores into the entire book for hours, I always want to date him to a nice evening of special, romantic dinner.

But when he's not into reading, even the ones I suggest, I read some chapters or passages to him. He's a wonderful listener. :)

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Post by Edidiong Francis » 11 Sep 2018, 10:00

For me,reading passion get nothing to do with emotional feeling,how you feel about someone is difference from reading to acquire knowledge or understanding,this are two different thing,let's not say,because of having passion for reading,we miss someone that our heart love most,e.g i have seen an army intellingence dating an artist,and they are getting along too too well,their profession does nt stop intimate conversation,so passion have nothing to do with emotion.

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Post by Oulababe » 12 Sep 2018, 10:47

Yeah I'd definitely date someone that doesn't read. It's not a problem because we could have so much more in common.

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Post by rupe10 » 13 Sep 2018, 00:43

The odd thing is that the older I get, the fewer people I meet that are into reading at all.

Mention a book and you get a blank stare, a scrunched-up face if not worse.

That being said -- not only could I, but have many times.

It’s no big deal to me because if there’s chemistry, there are plenty of other pursuits and shared experiences to get in to or chew the fat about.

I also respect the fact that, perhaps, I may not be into something dear to their being and that shouldn’t deal-breaker, either.

For instance, my most recent ex couldn’t help trying –almost became like a game-- to get me to watch musicals. Nothing doing, but that wasn’t anywhere close to what broke us.

Of course, I’m being a bit of a hypocrite because I do have deal-breakers…
Just not the reading one.

And on the flipside I was once the weak link, in terms of reading, in one relationship. The formerly better half would actually introduce herself as a “bibliophile” in mixed company – leaving me to explain it to the victims during her washroom/drink treks. Good times, that.

If I could choose, though, I’m definitely ticking that elusive reader box

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