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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

Post by liztrillo91 » 14 Jul 2018, 14:25

Well not only could I do it, but I in fact married a man who doesn't read much more than sports articles on the internet... but he does read the Bible...and we like the same movies and shows, both of us have plenty to talk about other then books..couples aren't going to like a hundred percent of the same things...

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Post by Ksharmilla » 14 Jul 2018, 18:45

Errmmm.... I would probably say it won't matter if he doesn't read. If we have other things in common like similar movie tastes and hiking then it won't be too big a deal. Just don't tell me I read too much..then we'll have a problem

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Post by samiam013 » 15 Jul 2018, 12:29

I am currently dating someone who does not like to read at all, but he loves to hear me read to him and discuss the characters and storyline so I believe that helps quite a bit. To answer the specific question though, yes I could date someone who does not read as long as we had other things in common and he understood how much reading means to me. He would have to give me space and time to read.
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Post by Elisabeth Mayse » 16 Jul 2018, 21:17

I'm dating someone who doesn't read right now. He has the attention of a fly, so it's difficult for him to sit through almost anything for too long. He does, however, really enjoy reading informative magazines like National Geographic. I can deal with that.

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Post by insertbookpunhere » 17 Jul 2018, 07:59

I could, and I have. While I definitely understand the logic of not being able to share that with a partner, there are a multitude of others with whom you can - like here, for instance! Friends, social groups, book clubs... Reading is a very personal experience, and for me, one of the few things I enjoy alone, the peace of having a truly quiet moment to myself. A partner may not always share your interests. I think a good book buddy who does, particularly your taste in books or one slightly more diverse to inspire you outside of your comfort zone, would suffice.

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Post by christabel88 » 17 Jul 2018, 10:16

Hmmm. I think I can but I definitely can't date someone who didn't know how to read and speak well.

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Post by Abigail R » 17 Jul 2018, 20:27

I think there is something wonderful about someone who is passionate about something - anything (so long as it is not harmful, of course). I think part of relationships, friendly or romantic, is sharing in and being excited about each others interests whether they are common or not.

Growing up, I was blessed with a mom who would let me rant and rave about any book I was reading. She would basically listen to me retell every book I ever read, whether we were in the car or if she was doing laundry or cooking. I was right there next to her just talking away about my books. I would love to listen to someone's passions just as my mom did for me, even if it's not reading. And I would hope I'll be so lucky as to have someone willing to listen to me rant about my new favorite book!

Maybe the better questions is whether or not some who doesn't read wants to date a reader?!

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Post by reader699 » 18 Jul 2018, 08:54

I will date as long as he or she is responsible,caring and loving.

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Post by BookNerd_101 » 19 Jul 2018, 05:25

I am currently married to a person who has never read any novel - fiction or non-fiction..well apart from story books in his childhood maybe. He is more inclined to pick up a book if there are pictures in it and if the size of the book is less than 5 pages ! :) He does like reading technical articles, gadget review write-ups and such. But this isn't a bummer for us as he does love to listen to my narrations about story characters and also if intrigued, he does follow up on the character as my novel reading progresses. I'm an avid-reader and he is an avid-listener. So yeah, it is possible to have a successful relationship with somebody who dosen't read.

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Post by LASERRR__371 » 19 Jul 2018, 06:00

I think I can. But the person should still hold an IQ. There are other things I would love to converse about(music, art, philosophy,etc.) rather than just books :) .

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Post by amsula_2018 » 19 Jul 2018, 08:45

Yeah, I can date someone like that because there are other things we can talk about so long as he has a good sense of humor. 😋😋😋
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Post by joycechitwa » 19 Jul 2018, 09:09

Inasmuch as it's absolutely frustrating not to be able to share a love of reading with your significant other, for me, it's not a deal breaker. We will just simply find other interests that we both enjoy and indulge in those to complement those that we do not share. Or we could watch the movies based off fo the books I have read and enjoyed.

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Post by camiller722 » 19 Jul 2018, 12:46

I married a person like this, so obviously my answer is yes. :lol2:

We agree on all the important stuff (money, kids, etc.), but beyond that, we are very different people. I'm a nerdy and mechanically inclined. He's a soldier and a cowboy. I'm incredibly energetic and enthusiastic about almost everything. He's much more laid-back and quiet. I plan everything out to the last detail and then plan for every alternative I can imagine. He jumps in with both feet and figures the details out as he goes. (It sounds like a nightmare, but I swear it's actually a really great balance. :lol2: )

It's important to share interests so that you have things to do together and time to bond. But it actually works out well for us to have our separate interests too. He'll watch a movie with our boys and I get my quiet time to read. I'll have the kids help me in the garden, while he works/trains the horses. If I have a book I'm really enjoying, I'll read my favorite parts to him, and we can enjoy it together in that way. Or if it's something I really want him to read, I'll highlight the most important parts. Like when I was pregnant, I read What to Expect when You're Expecting from cover to cover and as I read it, I highlighted all the things I needed to remember in pink and all the things I wanted him to read in blue. He did end up reading the majority of the book eventually, but he was able to get the most important stuff first and fill in the rest later as he had time.

Every person (and couple) is different, so maybe it isn't something you can do....but don't rule it out completely. :wink:

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Post by Sunnyroyish » 19 Jul 2018, 15:13

I think I can if I try. It would be definitely hard for a bookworm to get along with someone who doesn't read. But with a little effort from both sides it is 100% possible.

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Post by CrimsonPrincess24 » 19 Jul 2018, 18:35

I can because not there might be something that we have in common other than reading.

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