Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[PlanetHauth]

I could (and did) date someone who doesn't read. As a teacher, I've worked with children who abhor reading, and have heard all of their reasons why they hate reading, so I understand even if I can't relate or disagree with their view. However, I ended up marrying someone who likes to read, but doesn't have the time to read, so I'm halfway between the two points, I guess. The good thing is, he'll sit and listen to me when I talk about books, and he'll offer what conversation he can about them.

[Jonida]

I don't wwant to judge the person I'm dating just by the fact that he doesn't read. In my country an expression says: Love comes from the stomach... so he might start to read while datind me

[PascalNoe]

Dating a person who does not read is like eating pasta without cheese.
It is not essential to the dish but it certainly helps.
That's all.

[K Geisinger]

People who choose not to read have never been a deal-breaker for me, but rather those with the inability to think critically and discuss a topic. My husband rarely reads, but he will discuss the character development or motivations in shows, movies, and plays. He didn't try reading for pleasure until college and has a difficult time painting the story in his mind.

Someone far worse, who I would choose not to date, are the types of people who think that their way of stress relief or relaxing is the only way. I've met people who insist the ONLY way possible to relax is going to a game/having a drink/watching television. Reading books helps us learn to paint ourselves into different lives and experience new places. The rigid and inflexible are far worse than the non-readers.

[Sourpacksuper]

I do not think so. I might be able to, but I'm pretty sure I would not even try.

[biscuits]

I'm currently with someone who reads, even much better than I do. He even makes me a better reader. I can't even the imagine the number of books I wouldn't have read without him .

[Faithmwangi]

Haha...i would totally date someone who doesn't read.I love telling stories so i can just narrate it to them mid-reading or when am done.Definitely not a deal breaker for me.

[nikkyteewhy]

Yes I could, I don't impose my values on others, I can only hope to influence them with some of my good habits such as reading books the same way I hope to pick up some good habits of theirs too. Though I do not expect to be disturbed while reading. Just saying.

[gen_g]

No good god, I could not. I feel that reading helps one develop empathy for others (as one is constantly forced to stand in the position of various characters), and people who read generally tend to be more intelligent, both intellectually and emotionally.

[Hannah Mo]

For me, no probably not. My dream of a perfect date is in a bookstore with coffee and well books. Spending all night reading is a wonderful thing to do, and I would want my partner to also sit with me and enjoy the comfort and knowledge that comes from them.

[Ericanielsen]

Honestly, I’ve never thought of it as a dealbreaker. My husband and I were together only two weeks before we eloped in Vegas. Admittedly, I had no real time to get to know him. Fast forward six years and here we are today. I have four children ages 10 and under and I find it hard to find time to read. My husband is not a reader. When he does read, it’s always audiobooks. He doesn’t understand finding time to read. It has made it a lot harder for me to find the time for myself. I don’t read as often as I would like to. It’s something I’ve been trying to her into more again.

[Kenechukwuanueyiagu]

Yes I should. Reading has nothing to do with family or relationship

[Muna Manuels]

Hi. I'm Muna by name and today is my first day here. I'm so glad to have stumbled upon this and trust me, I can't just read other replies without at least sharing my opinion.

Well, it is true that "iron sharpens iron."
The way I read and the method I use while reading annoys certain people - those that hate reading.
When you see me reading, please don't make yourself neglected by me by trying to start up a conversation. I would not acknowledge your presence let alone talk with you. If what you want to discuss is important, write it on a paper and put it in front of me. That is when I get distracted.

Now, that is me. My answer is a big fat NO! I can't get intimate with a person who does not read. What do you expect me to do with all the crazy information and ideas I get from books I've read? It is better to remain single and talk to my diary than being in a relationship where your partner frowns at your enthusiasm for what you love - reading. Seriously, what do you want me to discuss with you? Just movies and reality shows? Please try the girl next door!

[faceadventure]

I think I could as long as they at least watch movies. I think that enjoying different stories adds to a persons character and personal growth.

[haleygerstenberg]

This is my life–we even went on to get married (!) It works because 1) just because he doesn't read doesn't mean he isn't mentally active; I married a pretty smart guy who stays on top of current events and keeps me updated, and 2) I, as the one with more free time, read lots of books and we talk about them. If he never wanted to talk or hear about books, then this would be a no-go, but as it is we balance each other out and have plenty to talk about

I do still buy him books though, in case he wants to have something to read... and then I read them lol