Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[Barwaq]

You could of course date with someone who does not read , but the best selection for readers is to date with people that read because this will have double advantage for all, the first advantage is your dating relationship advantage, and the second one is the reading enjoyment relationship between you and the person you are dating with.

[momma182]

I honestly thought I wouldn't be able to date a non-reader, until I met my husband. He doesn't read for pleasure, and hasn't actually read a book since high school. For me, it's not deal breaking because he searches out new information via documentaries, ted Talks and debate style opinion shoes.

He may not understand my love for reading, but he appreciated it and helps foster a love for it with our kids.

That's all I can ask for.

[vixicountiss]

I'm married to a wonderful man who chooses not to use his free time to read. This is okay with me because each person has something that brings them joy and I can't expect every person I encounter to have the same interests as myself. However, this goes without saying, he does respect reading and thinks that it's essential to society. Also, I want to note that him seeing me read frequently does have an effect on him. I even discuss reading topics with him and detail things out that he might not be familiar with. He recently told me that I have inspired him to create a library of his own and he wants to read the books I've suggested to him. So, yes, at the beginning of our relationship he didn't read much (he loves documentaries so our conversations were still engaging and interesting. He's not uneducated.), but now that he sees the joy that it brings me on a daily basis, he is also interested. I think it pays to have an open mind with people and be an example. However, I wouldn't think it necessary that someone read for me to date them (it is a plus though).

[marieelise08]

I guess not, I am inclined to people who are witty, creative thinkers, smooth talkers, intelligent-someone who wouldn't bore me out. I guess those qualities are products of liking reading, or qualities of people who are fond of reading. So I'd rather be with a guy who reads all day than a person who sits in front of the TV. Plus if he is into reading we have something to argue about(of course ideas ideas ideas=opinions),haha. (that is adding some spice to our relationship).

[Cassidyfairen]

I don't think so. It would be like dating someone who doesn't like breakfast foods. It will destroy our relationship eventually because of the importance it plays in my life.

[Amystl26]

Hmm this is a great question! Since reading and books are such a big part of who I am (I'm a proofreader for goodness' sake!), it might be challenging to find similar topics to discuss. A lot of what my current boyfriend and I talk about is books. We recommend them to each other and discuss are own individual books. Aside from a means of conversation though-- we love going on reading dates , exploring different coffeehouses, independent bookstores, and libraries. So, now that I'm actually writing this out, no, I do not see myself dating someone whom has no interest in the written word.

[jennibabe31]

Reading is my hobby. I can't go a day without reading. I used to think that anyone I dated must love to read as much as I. That is until 4 years ago when I met my husband. He hated to sit and read,but he was content to sit and cuddle watching TV while I read. Miraculously, over time he started picking up books and reading. Now every night before bed, we have reading time together. I'm glad I gave things a chance, and it goes to show that sometimes people change. And even if they don't change, there are ways to still do what you love and enjoy each others company.

[cozark38]

Not only could I, but I did date someone who does not read books. I am an avid reader and I like to dabble in my own writing for children, mostly rhyming and about nature. Now, 40 years later, I'm still married to that same man I dated way back when. He has never read a book in all the time I have known him, and he still wonders that I get so excited about some stories. He will read magazines and sometimes peruse a book, but it is not just his thing. I wish he did read, but there are other things in life to discuss. Imagination is something inside you and books just give you a much greater experience in reading. The people who don't read may miss out in my opinion, but that is not their thing. So, don't count someone out if they don't read books, they may have much more to offer and can be a book just waiting to be written. Now if they don't like tuna fish or tacos that is a much more serious thing.

[RebeccasReading]

I am currently dating someone who doesn't read even though I thought I never could! It's still bizarre to me that someone could not enjoy reading but it doesn't interfere with our relationship.

[Kieran_Obrien]

I am currently dating someone who doesn't read even though I thought I never could! It's still bizarre to me that someone could not enjoy reading but it doesn't interfere with our relationship.

Same! I always thought I would need to be with someone who reads, or else we wouldn't have anything to talk about! But I've since realised that relationships are much more about personalities that match rather than specific interests people have. In fact, I know a lot of book-lovers and nerds like myself who do nothing but irritate me

[shaylaa]

I don't believe I have ever dated a reader. Upon reflection of that, I realize there was, at times, a feeling of sorrow for not being able to share that love with another. But, it's not at the top of my list for requirements in a partner. I have heard others describe sitting for hours reading with a loved one. This does sound enchanting and beyond my scope of reality, but that's because it has never happened for me yet. There is always hope!

[kastle]

I think I probably could, as long as they are still aware and focused individuals.

[Megisa]

No we won't have anything to talk about reading is learning. I like being with people that love to read and learn. We see our selves in the characters

[Poet0113]

Yes, actually I'm engaged to a guy who doesn't read. He enjoys video games more so when we both need our personal time I read and he plays video games. We always enjoy sharing our passions with each other. I'll tell him all about a book I read and he'll tell me all about a game he played.

[Catia]

When I had a boyfriend for many years who didn't read at all. He was my best friend but I did miss talking to him about books and stories. In fact, it didn't work out for us.
My partner ist a reader and thought he prefers crimes and history books while I'm more into fantasy and horror, we like to tell each other about what we are reading and we are always on the lookout for books that might be interesting for each other.
Of course, for a good relationship you need more than sharing love for reading and books