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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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That would be quite hard since they would be short on ideas and would almost maintain a status quo in their thinking
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Well I believe that character is built by the quality of books a person reads and the people the person associate his/herself with. In a relationship personality is very important it determines the response, reply, reaction to anything coming from the both parties and the reading of books have a significant effect on the personality and character of a person I believe. Therefore I won't want to date someone who doesn't read, emphasis on the want to because love is incomprehensible most times.
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I think our interests differ. While it is good that we read and learn from others' experience in books, people want to learn through their own experiences. Dating such people will be a bit difficult for me, but at least if they are willing to find out some things by themselves without necessarily pestering me, then I don't have any problem.
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Ahmm, I think I could because if I began to see whether she reads or not I might never get a date. If someone does not read, he/she might have his/her own reasons. But I could not date someone who does not have any passion or cool hobby at all.
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I am currently married to someone who doesn't read. There have been plenty of times he has actually he has stated, "You are married to your books, not me". I will admit, it is tough to balance a personal life with my fictional one. ? What's a girl to do? Smile, come back with something witty (when I say witty, I mean something from a book I've read), then proceed to walk away, leaving him confused.
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Noooo. My husband read even more than I did when we were married.
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No because it will be difficult to interact with her about current trends which she will not have any idea about to contribute.
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Post by Sarah Immanuel »

I would date someone that doesnot read. He would have other different interesting aspects about him. You never know.
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Post by okayode »

Yes i can ... She may not like reading right, but that does not make her an illiterate. So yes i may

-- 19 Oct 2017, 18:04 --

Yes i can ... She may not like reading right, but that does not make her an illiterate. So yes i may
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Post by ReyvrexQuestor Reyes »

Ho-hoo, dating someone who doesn't read? Why not? As it seems, one way to gauge a person's intellectual mock-up is through her or his readings. Or if such a person reads at all. The other ways will be through casual observation and, of course, by looking at the resume. That's for certain. This will aid you in picking up a nice conversational thread on which to converse.

Otherwise, you will have to resort to the most probable subject of interest to the person concerned -- herself.
For a woman, there is nothing more flattering than your noticing her unique hairdo, lipstick, perfume, dress, etc. If this is not a sustaining subject long enough to cover the evening, you can expand to her activities and personal preferences. This could leave her talking arduously, with you only supplying the little nods. Remember that to be a good conversationalist is to be a good listener.
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oh no, that would be intellectual succide.
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My husband's not a big reader, which has always baffled me. How can anyone not love books? But, we have so many other things in common, that this is no big deal.
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Of course. Reading is more personal to me and I dont have to share a book I love with someone to enjoy the experience.
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I guess I could date someone that doesn't read but I can't really imagine being interested in someone that doesn't read. I mean if they don't read, there is not much chance that we would have a whole lot in common. I read all the time. Every day. If I need answers, I read. If I am bored, I read. It's what I do.
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I married someone who doesn't read and doesn't like or want to read. He only reads unless he has to...for school or work purposes! It doesn't bother me at all, though. To each his own :) My love of reading is enough for the both of us LOL. He knows that I love to read and when I'm not at work, with him or our kids, that I'm more than likely going to be reading. I'm trying to instill the love of reading into my kids. Fingers crossed it'll work!
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