Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Post by jibby9 » 26 Oct 2018, 19:23

I'm currently with someone who absolutely does not read. It's a real struggle between us as not only does he not enjoy books (action, mystery, fiction, ANYTHING), he also fails to stay up-to-date on common news articles and very basic texts. While I love this person, this is honestly so difficult for me and I feel our conversations are so very limited. Love him for his heart and personality but ultimately wish he had the desire and curiosity to be an avid reader like me :(

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Post by trina215 » 26 Oct 2018, 23:24

I am currently with someone who doesnt like to read on a regular basis but its ok. My passion is reading, his is music. It blends well because we can ask questions about each others and sometimes learn something new or interesting. opposites really do attract

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Post by xuqt2006 » 27 Oct 2018, 16:30

I think I could as long as we have other things we mutually enjoy. If he likes movies, video games, etc. (things I enjoy) I think we would be fine.

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Post by Big Josh » 28 Oct 2018, 02:34

Reading is a habbit or interest that one develops ok, as long as the person think straight am good with that.

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Post by megmeyer01 » 28 Oct 2018, 11:28

Absolutely not - reading is one of the major life experiences & expands the mind! To not be a reader indicates a person who limits their world.

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Post by Cgilling » 28 Oct 2018, 14:29

I can date someone who does not read.
Not everyone enjoys reading, their priorities may be different from mine. As long as I get time to do my reading I'm fine

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Post by Devyani001 » 29 Oct 2018, 00:04

A person who doesn't read is no better than a person who can't read. Books are an integral part of my life. Every book that I've read has stretched my mind and transformed me. If I date a person who doesn't read, the relationship will get boring after a while. There should be newness, some freshness and a pinch of adventure. The topics to discuss will soon die out after a certain stage of being in a relationship and that will make things kind of monotonous.
So I'd rather not be with a person who doesn't read.

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Post by sszb » 31 Oct 2018, 04:16

I think it's all about how we can convince the other person to read.
‏We’re all stories in the end. Just make it a good one.”

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Post by Sahar Majid » 31 Oct 2018, 13:26

It's not something i've thought about too much. I do think that a person who reads has a much better understanding of life and people, and I feel really bad for those who don't because they're missing out on so much. It really depends from person to person because it is possible to have all that without reading but I'd definitely prefer a person who reads. A person you doesn't read might be into other things though like movies etc and I think it'll be fun to interact that way with someone who is very different from me.

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Post by sarahmarlowe » 08 Nov 2018, 21:59

Ha! I did date someone who didn't read, and I even married him. I should have known that I couldn't trust someone who didn't love books! Now he's my ex. :lol:
You can spend your time however you want, but you can spend it only once. :eusa-think:

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Post by Sunday diamond » 10 Nov 2018, 10:01

No! No!, not at all. I'm not disapproving just because she can't read but because of the fact that, her inability to read means she will be very low in IQ, social status, administrative skill and the likes. So she will be a burden on my intelligence, emotional control and so on.

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Post by dailey2820 » 12 Nov 2018, 15:57

There's much more to a person than whether they read or not. I can see dating someone who doesn't read as long as there are other things we have in common. Although, I could not see being with someone who didn't understand my need to read and viewed it as a waste of time. I spend a good amount of my downtime reading every day and luckily I married a fellow lover of books :)

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Post by kristine29 » 15 Nov 2018, 06:26

For now, maybe I will because I believe in the saying opposite attracts. There's no harm in trying, if he really doesn't understand my hobby then fine I will move on , It is only on dating stage so it is only a getting to know each other phase. So I think I 'm fine trying

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Post by A G Darr » 19 Nov 2018, 13:44

I'm married to someone who doesn't really read. He has read one self-improvement book in the six years we've been together. I read several books a month, and this doesn't hinder our relationship. He actually enjoys me discussing the books I'm reading with him, even though he hasn't read the book himself.

I feel you should have something in common with your partner, but you don't need to have everything in common about your partner. There are many things he knows a lot about that I'm not into, and I listen while he tells me about the things he is interested in. Though we might not be interested in the same things, we are care about one another and take the time to listen to what the other person considers important. And we don't belittle the other person for the lack of interest.

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Post by modupereb » 20 Nov 2018, 12:01

Not everybody likes reading. To some its an hobby, to other its not. If at all I will date someone who doesn't like reading, be sure I will motivates and drive the person to learn how to read, in an interesting way.

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