1 out of 4 stars
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The Basic Instructions Before Lovin Eve: A Young/All Mans guide to Understanding Women by K.A. Peoples is a book in the non-fiction genre.
The target audience for this book, according to the author, comprises of young men who are raised in a single-woman headed household. The author believes that these men need help understanding the different types of women, before they tie the knot with their lady-love. The author’s primary aim is to help young men in their relationship, by giving his comments on how to judge the woman in the relationship, testing the strength of the relationship, and what should be the course of action in case the relationship fails. Along with providing some advice on who to marry, the author also gives some handy information on divorce procedure, court systems and child visitation rights (should matters get really out of hand).
The author’s writing style is suited to a non-fiction book. It is easy-to-understand and pretty straightforward. The author has tried to supplement his arguments with plenty of facts and figures; however, a greater amount of italicization would have been greatly appreciated. The reason for this is the difference between reading a hard copy version and a soft copy version (which is generally the case these days). The book is organized into roughly eleven chapters, where the chapters follow a fairly logical progression of ideas.
Coming to the content, the author’s ideas can be succinctly summarized in these few lines quoted from his book, “For those young men, this book is written for you; to help guide you on your path to true man-hood. For all other men, this was written to inspire you to take back your position as the head! Men are the head because men are the defenders of their home and community. You cannot defend your family from the back! You must place yourself at the head in order to protect your family from danger while leading them through the wilderness! Women are the child-bearers; they are the preservers of life. Men are the defenders; we’re the protectors of life.” These lines leave nothing to imagination as to what the book is about. The major points that the author makes is, first, that single women raise girls who are not sufficiently tailored to become supportive wives, secondly, boys who are raised by single mothers do not know how to behave like a man in the relationship, and hence are easily duped by women (who are much like their own single mother, might I add), thirdly, girls raised in a two-parent functional family, brought up by a doting father, are more equipped to become good wives because they know the place of the man in the family, fourthly, the author applies the same logic to boys raised in a two-parent family, claiming that the father teaches his son the five essential principles of manhood: a man is a builder, provider, protector, lawmaker, and enforcer of his home and community, which means that they know their place in the family, and fifthly, the author advises his male readers to not get involved with ‘damaged’ women (women who were physically and/or, mentally abused, abandoned, sexually assaulted by the mother’s friend, step-father, or other relatives), until they sort out their problems.
The author has made several other enlightening points about women; especially single mothers, who he believes are the root-cause of divorces. The book is insulting to women at so many levels that a review won't suffice to counter the author’s views; I might have to write an entire book to dissect his opinions. The only helpful bit in this book is about divorces, child support and visitation rights, since the author breaks down the entire process for an average person trying to understand the system.
I don’t want to recommend this book for any kind of reader, especially not for the audience the author has in mind, lest they follow his advice! This book might appeal to women, to remind us that gender equality in practice as well as belief, is still a distant dream. I rate this book 1 out of 4 stars.
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The Basic Instructions Before Lovin Eve
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