3 out of 4 stars
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Finding Mr. Right by John Noel is not your mother’s dating book. In fact, it is barely a dating book at all. Rather, it is a comprehensive guide for becoming a happy, healthy, empowered woman. Still, Noel delivers on his promise to provide readers with a “no nonsense, shame-free handbook” for finding a healthy, lasting relationship with a quality partner.
Noel throws out old notions that women must craft more desirable versions of ourselves to attract the men we want. Instead he provides readers with a refreshing and empowering new guide to finding love.
Readers be warned: if you are looking for a quick fix formula, this is not the book you want. Finding Mr. Right will not tell you what to say or wear or any other fabled man catching schemes. This book will take you on a journey to discover your best self. Noel’s approach to finding love is based on the idea that only when you truly love yourself will you become irresistible to the men you deserve.
This handbook is a quick read, but a long process. The eight step program is clearly laid out in eight chapters with self love is as both the first step and its uniting theme. Subsequent topics include acceptance, authenticity and vulnerability, inner peace, health, greatness, and intelligence. In each chapter Noel introduces the topic, provides explanatory scenarios, and gives comprehensive action steps. Refreshingly, he continuously incorporates sound scholarly research and ample humor.
I must admit – this is not a book I would normally read, nor am I currently in the market for “Mr. Right.” I just could not contain my curiosity when I saw a male author’s big claims to guide women on a personal journey that leads to love. I was very impressed by Noel’s commitment to the idea that we are at our best when we can love and accept ourselves fully. I love that his focus is on becoming a more genuine and fulfilled version of yourself. It is just so true. Women are constantly bombarded with messages of how to become more beautiful and desirable, but all too often we are being fed a superficial litany of deceit. Sure, looking hot and feigning interest in his hobbies might get you a fun fling, but pretending to be something you are not won’t lead to true love. Rather, self love creates the radiance and irresistibly that we so often strive for.
This book may not provide any new or radical ideas; in fact most of it can be boiled down to common sense. However, they are ideas that too many women (myself included) need reminding of. Thus, any woman can benefit from this book, not just those looking for dating advice. As Noel highlights, finding a wonderful partner is one of the many positive byproducts of this self-actualizing journey.
I give this book 3 out of 4 stars because it was inspiring and concise. I must admit, I did not follow the program and I have not found “Mr. Right,” but I feel inspired to revisit the action steps and start treating myself they way I deserve. I genuinely recommend this book to anyone looking for a happier, healthier life.
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