Can reading be rude?
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Re: Can reading be rude?
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I agree with you if he is watching TV then you should be able to read, maybe cuddle up with him. I did when the ex watched tv and I was reading. Or we'd have a little small talk or I'd stop and ask about the show during a commercial or something.kbsmith11 wrote:I completely agree with you guys. My husband thinks that it is rude to read when we are supposed to be spending time together but he is watching tv so I take out my kindle. I don't feel it is rude since we are still together and he is engrossed in the television. Since there is not conversation what is the point of watching a show I care nothing about and would rather be reading!?!
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If you are around family, friends, students, professors, etc. pulling out a book and stuffing your nose into it's creases and forgetting the existence of everyone around you doesn't seem like it can do too much harm, but it is utterly rude. Enjoy the company of the person with you.
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I agree, but now I also have to point out that some people come up to me...while they see I am engrossed in my book ...and want to start talking to me . Then I admit, I am rude and give monosyllabic answers . Otherwise, I try not to read at social gatherings, because sometimes I can't focus on the story and need to read a paragraph three times before it sinks in.VinuW wrote:It can be. If you are reading a book in the middle of a conversation. I tend to do this, and my friends constantly get annoyed.
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I have read during a car trip when I'm traveling with friends for hours. I don't feel it's rude to read then, especially if most are pulling out their cell phones. I consider that a mutual understanding that sometimes there are lulls in conversations on long rides and we like to keep ourselves entertained.
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Freethinker wrote:I think it depends on the situation. I found it incredibly rude when my best mate asked my hubby and I round for dinner and whilst the 3 of us chatted, her husband spent most of the meal texting his friends!! He made no effort to join in the conversation. BUT, having said that, I do something that I think my in-laws consider rude but I feel there isn't much of an option for me. Hubby and I visit them, maybe staying for a week. Each meal time we all sit up together and they drag on for an hour and a half each time, maybe 2 hours. Often I'm reading when I'm called to the table so I bring my book. I eat my food and often just sit quietly. I do this because a) after 16 years I have nothing to contribute to the topics my in-laws want to talk about; b) they don't seem to require a response, preferring to talk AT me rather than TO me; and c) rather rudely, half the conversation is carried out in their own language, which I have made efforts to learn but don't have an advanced grasp of yet. So, once food is eaten and they are chatting and I can't join in, what do I do?! I know lunch or dinner isn't 'finished' because it's always followed up with a hot drink and the expectation is that I stay there for that so I get my book out. I used to just sit there for 2 hours feeling mind-numbingly bored but now I just start to read. I'm sure they think I'm rude but then maybe they need to try to get to know me and try to talk to me about things I'm interested in...?! You know, all the time I've spent staying with them, always reading, neither of them have EVER asked me what I'm reading! I think that illustrates quite clearly how little interest they have in me or anything I have to say!
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I completely agree. I am not going to pull out a book and read in a social situation with people I know, but I always have a book with me and will read when I am in the waiting room or someplace like that. I do tend to do it at work sometimes too, but I work at a library so it is a little more acceptable and people don't judge.sweetnsassymom wrote:Yes, it can be rude to read instead of interacting with others, for example in the lunchroom with co-workers, you could at least be a little sociable at first until you run out of things to say and then you can start reading. But if you are in a doctor's waiting room where you don't know anyone, it is definitely not rude, rather it is more acceptable than just sitting there staring at people. I agree that it is no more rude than being glued to your phone, but at least look up every once in a while and see what you are missing.]
I will admit I have brought a book and pulled it out and started reading at a social outing once, but everyone was drunk and obnoxious and I needed to escape. I am sure I have done it more than once, but never to be rude.