Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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I cannot!!! My ex wasn't a huge reader and because of it when I wanted to read he would be watching tv or things like that which made it hard to read.
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As long as they respect my passion for books, I won't mind if they don't read.
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That would be hard.
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Post by haylohardy »

I am not sure on this, I read ALOT! If the person I was dating did not read at all he would have to be ok with my nose in a book or my kindle. If they were a reader it would be great to see what types of books they read or if we could read some of the same. In conclusion... Not sure if I could really "date" someone that does not like reading lol ?
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Post by marymargarete »

I think I could date someone who didn't read as long as they respected my love of reading. However, I think that if they did read a lot I would be immensely more attracted to them. My current boyfriend has a ton of books in his room and it really helped me understand who he is based on the books he owned.
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marymargarete wrote:I think I could date someone who didn't read as long as they respected my love of reading. However, I think that if they did read a lot I would be immensely more attracted to them. My current boyfriend has a ton of books in his room and it really helped me understand who he is based on the books he owned.
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Yes, the person I am currently in a relationship with enjoys only once in a while, but hardly. I've thought of creative ways to get them to read the same book as me so we could have something else to talk about other than the norm. I truely believe that there are people who don't know they actually enjoy reading. She's all for it so I'm actually currently searching for a good book we could read separately and be able to discuss it. So to answer your question, yes; but maybe soon I'll be dating a new reader. If she ends up enjoying it that is.
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Yes, I could. My fiancé doesn't like to read at all & tells me all the time in a joking manner that he would fall asleep within the first paragraph. Ha!
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I married one! Ha! It really doesn't bother me because he doesn't care that I read. He just knows when I get really engrossed in a book I can't put it down so he jokes that he will see me in a few days :)
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Post by Stefanus Kristian »

I don't know about dating, but in general my relationship with my friends and family members made me as "strange" or "alien" person, either I know too much or I bluff too much.
For me, the books really are the windows of the world, I learned many things from it. When I talk to someone who doesn't like to read the books, it makes me feel superior, or rather "Why he don't know about that simple thing?". Anyway it also true that each time I found 'new' knowledge from the books, I felt that my knowledge was nothing in comparable.
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Definitely! I am!
Reading is my escapism and my hobby but my partner is a musician - I think the variety is a rich part of us.
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Post by megankilbey »

My current boyfriend doesn't read! However, he completely understand that I do, he's made a mental note of my favourite authors and picks me up their books, or any others he thinks I like, if he sees them! He's also got used to me not replying to him for a few hours, to return with a text saying 'sorry I was reading!'. However, I've dated someone in the past who thought reading was pointless, and lets just say that relationship didn't last very long!
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I'm not dating anyone, but I don't think it would be hard to date someone who doesn't read. That would mean that I would be more dedicated to my books than the person I would potentially love, and I would definitely drop the book I'm reading at the moment in order to be with the one I love. I mean, it's not a question of morals. Why do we base our assumptions that a person will be perfect for us based on their love (or hatred) for reading? I would have to be rather shallow. I thought love was based on a person's whole, not a few aspects.
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I think I can totally date someone who doesn't read, as long as they're not judgmental and condescending. I think there should be opposite interests in relationships, it gives each other opportunities to explore your partners interests and you may actually even enjoy yourself. I would like to find someone who does read but at the end of the day, if they respect me and give reading a chance I think it's fine.
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Post by Thyashi »

I think I could. It would be frustrating at times because you want to discuss a book with them, but they couldn't really understand your feelings towards it but there are other things to talk about that you and they could relate on.
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