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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?

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Probably not. It depends on the kind of person they are.
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No! Enough said.
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Post by dreamrei »

It may sound kind of biased to those that don't read but I am one who can't connect with someone who doesn't read. I just can't. And I've never been able to understand people who've only said that they only read when they are required to do so. It's never made any sense to me at all.
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Actually, i am dating someone who doesn't read and doesn't like to watch movies and i can't discuss anything about books with him. Sometimes it upsets me when i am so engrossed in book or crazy about a movie and i want to discuss about it but he has no idea about these things but still we have plenty to talk. Its not even that bad.
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Post by Lilapo9 »

It is difficult to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't read. If you can have a common interest or book to discuss that can help your relationship grow. There is nothing worse than going out with someone whom you think is attractive and nice and then sitting there with nothing to talk about.
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I am married to someone who doesn't read anything but the paper and mostly he focuses on the sports section. The one thing we do have is a respect for each others addiction. I am very happy to read while he is watching a game. He understands the money I spend on books (mostly my e-reader) and I understand the money he spends on satellite TV to get all of his games. As we have children, and other interests that we share, we do have other things to talk about. One of our daughters is a book worm, and I have other family members that I can discuss books with.
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Never. The relationship would be doomed before it started.
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They did used to say that reading is fundamental, but I am not sure they meant to build a relationship on when they said it. ;)
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NEVER AGAIN! My ex partner never read anything, not even the instructions on how to assemble a new item. The house was full of badly constructed objects and after the first year of our nineteen year relationships it was difficult to find something to talk about. Reading improves any conversation even those that have nothing to do with books.
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Post by crc3thebest »

There is no way I could date someone who could not read. Everyone of our conversations would begin like "What are you taliking about?". The whole relationship would be too annoyingly repetitive! I would discuss what a nostalgic book I am reading and here the crickets in the background, no response. Most relationships last off of love for the same hobbies and ideas. Therefore, I could never get into a relationship with someone who is totally the opposite.
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Post by Jeswif1s »

I could date a person who doesn't read as long as they accept that I love to read and they don't get in the way of my reading. I mean sure it would be totally awesome to discuss books with my partner but as long as I can still have my reading time I'm happy :)
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Post by alexandrakay87 »

I am an avid reader and a full-time writer, but my fiancee does not read at all. He is a "gamer", like on XBox and what not. I find that it actually works out really well. Sure sometimes it would be nice to be in bed, side-by-side, each reading our own books, but I've had that before and it can be distracting. Now, I read while he's playing his games and I have the whole bed to myself to get comfortable and really lose myself in the book. It's great. I wouldn't want it any other way. And he still listens and has discussions with me over the book I'm reading, just as I do over his "live stream" of games, even though I don't play them. We take interest in each other's interests without expecting the other to take part.
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Post by bluemelodious »

My husband doesn't read books at all. He simply doesn't have the patience. So yes, I did date a non reader and I actually married the Guy. Shocker! LOL. My husband IS my favorite book. He's my juicy romance novel that has no last page. Simply wonderful. :)
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Post by CapeBretonBookLover »

I don't date in general, but it made me so mad when one of my friends said, "I don't read books, books are boring. The last book I read was Goodnight Moon in grade 2".

Many kids don't read these days either, their parents just put them in front of My Little Pony on the television and expect them to learn about life. It's sad.
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Post by romance-reader »

Yes I could but I do prefer being in a relationship with someone that does read.
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