Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[lorenicole]

I am actually married to someone who doesn't read much. He reads articles in Dairy magazines and he read spec on tractors and machinery but not books. He understands that I love reading and has known about my passion since I was 9. He still shakes his head at me when I get into a book but knows better than to tell me to quit for fear of getting hit with a hardcover. I did that to him when I was in middle school with a textbook that I was studying from on the school bus!

[HoneyB]

I am actually married to someone who doesn't read much. He reads articles in Dairy magazines and he read spec on tractors and machinery but not books. He understands that I love reading and has known about my passion since I was 9. He still shakes his head at me when I get into a book but knows better than to tell me to quit for fear of getting hit with a hardcover. I did that to him when I was in middle school with a textbook that I was studying from on the school bus!

Hilarious! Enjoyed reading your post

[cortney2322]

I have in the past but my boyfriend now loves too. We spend lots of time just sitting on the beach with a great book and I love it. So much better to enjoy time together doing something you both love. And it's always a bonus when they are just as excited to hear about your book as you are to tell them about it!

[SammieWonder]

It's difficult for me to find a balance.

The last fella I dated was obsessed with books. I think he used it as a coping mechanism and it was very unhealthy. There's a lot of backstory here, but I'm choosing to save you all from it...lol

He also wanted us to read aloud to each other but he would overdramatize inflection or accents and, as an actor, it would just piss me off.

I do know that I prefer someone who reads and am immediately turned off by statements like "I hate to read", etc.

[jmeza10]

I'm not really sure. I have tons of friends who don't read as i do, but they are so knowledgeable about things that we talk about that i don't really think about it. I think that as long as they are passionate about whatever that they like i would be okay with it, and that they don't mind that i like to read.

[admiretejan]

I'm engaged to a man who's to busy working to sit down and actually read a book. actually we are complete opposite but it works. and I wouldn't give him up for the world

[Himmelslicht]

I'm married to a writer. He's got somewhat the same taste in literature as I do but he's not much of a reader. He spends more time on his researches.

[Batesblogger]

My husband is not a reader at all. I go through an average of 20 books a month. It has been a bit of contention in our relationship because any time we have moved, well, my books go with us. He has started opening up a little bit more recently, and he will ask what I'm reading and to tell him about the book. He hasn't progressed to actually reading them yet, but the fact that he is interested is a huge milestone.

[TextOfLex]

Honestly, I dated a few guys that didn't read and it bothered me. Here I am with overflowing bookshelves and endless knowledge about worlds that don't exist except on paper (and in imaginations) and they have no idea what I was talking about.

Reading was a deal breaker for me. Lucky for me my husband introduced me to The Game of Thrones (book not TV) on our first date. Now that is a way to win a girl over!

[nitalabrod]

thanks for your good sharing.keep it up

[Aivlys]

I have friends who don't read as much as I do and I have attempted to date people who don't read much BUT I really need people in my life frequently to understand that whether or not they read, I see reading as important. So someone who belittles reading or constantly interrupts unnecessarily, I see as not respecting my feelings. I need my alone time to be happy, time to not interact. And I can be alone while sitting right next to you if you let me read in peace. I definitely cannot live with someone who can't do their own thing (whether that's reading or gaming or other hobby) while I read. I can't deal with someone who needs constant attention.

[edgewoman]

Do you mean just read books? Because I read books all the time, but rarely news or commentary. The man I have been dating for two years reads tons of news. I say he "never reads anything," and he is always talking about the news and saying "don't you read?" when I have a blank look on my face. I bet we read the same amount every day, but it's different.

[Music_lover471]

Honestly, I'd be glad to have anyone date me. But for reals, I would be fine with it because everyone has their own hobbies and passions. I don't think that it is that big of a deal breaker. They may have different interests, and that's ok! That's why you date a different person, to get to know them. If they did everything you did then it would be like dating yourself, and I wouldn't want to date myself. I've spent enough time getting to know myself, I'd like a change of pace. I come from a family that doesn't read, so I guess I'm kind of used to people not understanding my reading obsession, and I have plenty of friends that read. I'd be fine with a boyfriend that doesn't read.

[justtheone23]

I think that as long as you have other interests in common dating someone who reads should not matter. I am personally dating a guy who does not like to read books. While I don't understand how someone doesn't like to read, I understand that everyone is different. We have so much else in common that we never have a lack of things to talk about. It works out really well for us.

[ALynnPowers]

I don't think I have any room to be picky about the person I date... I'm not that likable, so anyone who can tolerate me works just fine...