Could you date someone who doesn't read?
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Re: Could you date someone who doesn't read?
Now.. give me a man that loves some of the books I enjoy (The Great Gatsby, To Kill a Mockingbird, The Hunger Games, etc.) and I would love to get lost in conversation for hours about books. Perfect.
However, I actually can get quite annoyed dating someone who loves to read different genres than me. Even if they are reading (yay!) if I see them with a book I would never be caught reading, I'm like "Oh... wow." Haha. It's just a personal preference, but there has to be a little common interest in the genre too.
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I don't think I could. Like you said we wouldn't be able to discuss a book and they wouldn't understand how I could get so wrapped up in a book and form ideas on things the books talk about. Like with Gone Girl my boyfriend and I would talk for hours about the character development and Flynn ' s ability to bring certain deviant behaviors to life. I wouldn't have that with someone who chooses not to read. It's such a big part of who I am, something the other person would miss out on.Scott wrote:Could you date someone who doesn't read? I don't mean someone who can't read, but someone who chooses to read almost nothing, and who almost never reads a book. Could you get into a romantic relationship with such a person?
I doubt that I could. I could never get emotionally close to a person who doesn't read books, mainly because we could never discuss a specific book, and the person would never be able to take any of my recommendations let alone make any recommendations of their own to me.
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Great insight selenuhhr. We may be perceived as the ones harder to deal with by those who aren't quite so into reading ha ha interesting.selenuhhr wrote:Yes of course, some people just don't like reading and that's okay! The real question is, will he date someone who reads books after books and loves to go to libraries? I think that's harder to date than someone who doesn't read.
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He is very into movies and TV as an art form, and he is also into video games. He takes his vast knowledge in those areas and meets it with my knowledge of books in the middle. IE- "So, I have seen everything ever made for Sherlock Holmes, and you have read everything involved in that genre, lets have a debate about his ability to solve a crime given these circumstances, and is this situation here possible..." type debates. Before I met him, I did not own a TV, now I do, and I have seen more and been exposed to more than I thought possible.
He still hates reading, but he loves hearing me read to him. I mostly read him non-fiction, sparking debates about things as varied as the starting conditions for WWII to Net Neutrality. I think the underlying issue with this discussion is that we equate reading with a studied mind. In today's world that simply isn't true.
Voracious reading is only one path to a studied mind, if we re-phrase the question to "How many people here could date someone they perceive as willfully ignorant?" everyone would say "uh, no" but with the availability of so many documentaries and other avenues of information, ignorance can be beaten back more and more without reading...
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Very insightful, this is the kind of passionate response that makes the threads here great, people agree and disagree without fighting like other social media forums, it is so refreshing.jjrb07 wrote:I am currently in a committed, serious relationship with a non-reader. He hates reading. In his defense, he is ADHD and never learned the patience to sit and read. That said, he is extremely intelligent, and we have very deep conversations about everything (including what I am reading).
He is very into movies and TV as an art form, and he is also into video games. He takes his vast knowledge in those areas and meets it with my knowledge of books in the middle. IE- "So, I have seen everything ever made for Sherlock Holmes, and you have read everything involved in that genre, lets have a debate about his ability to solve a crime given these circumstances, and is this situation here possible..." type debates. Before I met him, I did not own a TV, now I do, and I have seen more and been exposed to more than I thought possible.
He still hates reading, but he loves hearing me read to him. I mostly read him non-fiction, sparking debates about things as varied as the starting conditions for WWII to Net Neutrality. I think the underlying issue with this discussion is that we equate reading with a studied mind. In today's world that simply isn't true.
Voracious reading is only one path to a studied mind, if we re-phrase the question to "How many people here could date someone they perceive as willfully ignorant?" everyone would say "uh, no" but with the availability of so many documentaries and other avenues of information, ignorance can be beaten back more and more without reading...
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