Could you date someone who doesn't read?
- blushingmilk
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We've been together for 7 years and we have an awesome relationship - he's my best friend as well as all the romantic stuff, and I can vouch that while it is certainly not necessary for your partner to be a book-lover, what is necessary is that they respect your love for books - otherwise you may find yourself choosing between them (I've never seen a book give an ultimatum to their reader, but it would be interesting if it did - heehee).
I think it is interesting because my boyfriend and I dont have many surface common interests, but we do have similar outlooks on life and pretty much exactly the same core values. I think its fine if you dont have surface interests as your romantic partner - cos thats what non-romantic friends are for!
For example, I'd been telling him about the Carl Jung personality types, the Myer-briggs personality test for years, and he thought it was ridiculous, but when he was handed the test in his job as a compulsory personality test for employees he changed his tune!
Of course we're the opposite in every way except for both being extroverts (I'm an ENFP, he's an ESTJ) - but what is interesting is that according to the test we're made for each other! He keeps me grounded and stops me being carried away with my warped perceptions of people, and I persuade him to listen to his gut-instinct some of the time and prevent him from being too close-minded and rational about certain things!
So if you're worried about your partner not being able to read, go for something a bit deeper like a personality type test or I dunno, maybe a couple of dates with an open mind even if she/he DOESNT read, to better signal what your chances are at having a meaningful relationship, and if you have to, leave the book discussions to all your other booklover friends!
*~ C. S. Lewis
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But I mean that only as long as they don't pull the condescending-I-will-ONLY-read-authors-you've-never-heard-of bit lol...
- clarebear
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Once I was in my room with a boy, he was looking around, and he came out with "Wow you have loads of books. Reading is SO gay!"
I think he was joking, but needless to say I didn't see him again.
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Yeah, I guess I could probably work it out with someone who doesn't read much, maybe because they are too busy or such. But I could never have a meaningful relationship with someone who thinks reading is stupid or whatnot.clarebear wrote:Once I was in my room with a boy, he was looking around, and he came out with "Wow you have loads of books. Reading is SO gay!"
"Non ignara mali miseris succurrere disco." Virgil, The Aeneid
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Oh yes! I can't stand that! I can't stand those that sneer at popular or modern fiction either. Reading is always good, doesn't matter what it is.SeoulChild wrote:But I mean that only as long as they don't pull the condescending-I-will-ONLY-read-authors-you've-never-heard-of bit lol...
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My boyfriend reads occasionally. He does a lot of buying books, and not a lot of reading them. However, although I definitely read more than he does, I also know that we are still matched fairly closely on intellectual level. We have totally different sets of knowledge, but we are both intelligent. He has a degree in Wildlife Biology, and mine is in Psychology. But I love that he knows all of these things that I don't! He has answers for many of the random questions that I ask daily (and kicks butt on trivia questions ).
PS - I hope this makes sense. I'm running on very little sleep. Oh, and also, I'm a INFJ.
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Some people initiate conversations with books, my mainstay is sports.
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