Could you date someone who doesn't read?
- Spoons
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- Eric
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Here in northern Maine hardly anyone reads for pleasure, so I've dated non-readers quite a bit. I don't mind if reading doesn't happen to be someone's hobby, but they need to be intellectually curious in some way. If they care more about shopping and drinking than the bigger, more abstract questions, then I doubt we would be compatible.
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I was gob smacked when reading your post, you have described my life almost spot on! lol. With the difference that my boyfriend and I share interest in online gamingnotrorygilmore wrote:My boyfriend doesn't enjoy reading, but I have no problem with it. We have so much in common that this is basically our one big difference. Usually when he plays video games (which I can't stand to play for a second) I'll read a book. We're in the same room and I actually enjoy doing these two different activities together. We're both doing something different, yet we are still doing it together.
I also think it works well because he will listen to my discussions and rambling about books and take an interest in them. He doesn't particularly enjoy reading (he will pick up a book on occassion if it is about history), but he always takes time to listen to me discuss books and he will even ask questions based on what I've told him. Since he takes an interest in my hobbies I find that it works for me.
If someone couldn't appreciate or tolerate the fact I enjoy reading, I think that would be a problem for me.
He doesn't read particualry much, but he too takes time to listen to what I have to say about a book and discusses it with me. There are alot more to me than books, although reading is a great passion of mine.
So the answer to the original question is: YES, I could date a non-reader...considering I've been in a relationship with one for soon 8 years
But to be honest, I would never, ever date some of the people here based on what they have written in their post/s. I have never read so much prejudice at the same time. We might share a passion for reading, but such a narrow-minded person could never keep the spark or interest.
I don't mean to flame anyone here, this was just my 2 cents.
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It would be hard, though to hold a conversation with someone who doesn't read, but I think there is more things in life than just reading, so it all depends on the person itself
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Wow, words! That describes me and my husband perfectly!Wordsgood wrote:I married one and it's worked out just fine thank you very much! And he reads more now than he ever did. We have a lot in common and he's not shy about letting me talk about what I read and asking questions. He's an intelligent man, but was never really a strong reader as he was put down a lot during school and from his family, so thought he just wasn't smart enough. He knows better now and is always expanding his knowledge base, not just through reading either!
Between me and my husband, I can't stop reading, he can't stop learning about new stuff. Since we've been together he's gone from bagpipes to martial arts to oil painting to mountain climbing to hurdy-gurdy to remote-control planes to real airplanes. And he's learning the piano. I love it.
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I don't agree. I've been with my fiance for over four years. He's only read a handful of books for pleasure over the course of our relationship. He enjoys reading, for the most part, but with assigned reading for school and his other passions, reading for fun rarely happens. I don't think any less of him for it, and I don't think our relationship suffers for it at all.kardel wrote:Maybe only a short time thing . Someone who reads is a much better conversationalist and much more enjoyable to be with. I don't want to spend my time listening all the time about their problems / friends /dresses or whatever .
Likewise, I've had a few friends that rarely read, and I feel our conversations were just as meaningful. Obviously I never discuss books with those friends, but just because they don't make reading a priority doesn't mean that our conversations revolve around what's new at the mall!
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