Could you date someone who doesn't read?

[Buchacha21]

I never thought I could say "yes" to this question, but it turns out I married someone who doesn't read!

For me, I love reading, but it is a hobby. I have other hobbies that my husband does not have any interest in, and he has hobbies that I have no interest in. I love talking about what I read, so sometimes it can be very frustrating when he isn't interested. But that has just forced me to find other people to talk to about what I read and has also resulted in the formation of a book club, so it's actually been a positive thing.

[Mavovo]

yes i would date someone who does not read...sounds strange to make that a tie breaker for a relationship for me...would annoy me more to have them going through my books and not replacing them the way i had put them...in the order of importance to me..i don't do alphabetical.

[zunnydays]

I definitely would. My ex-girlfriend wasn't much of a reader, and I still, like, was romantically involved and all that. The reality of it all is that reading is a hobby for me, and you don't have to share all interests with a romantic partner. Yes, we liked the same music, and TV shows, and her not liking novels didn’t really have an effect on the relationship.

[Tsheola Asavela]

Why not? Although, I would make attempts at getting her to read something that revolves around her interests. If that does not work then, I'll have to live with it I guess.

[DaniHarner]

My husband wouldn't read a book if his life depended on it, I read a book every other day! We both understand each other. Give him a car to tinker with and he is a happy man. Give me a book, and I am content!

[wroteyou]

Not read ... at all? Or just fiction books? If someone was into non-fiction and news then yes. But no reading ever. It's like John Waters said: 'If you go home with somebody, and they don't have books, don't ___ 'em!'

[Btschimchim19]

Reading is an indispensable part of me, so I guess it will be hard to date someone who does not have the same book interests as me

[Rebecca Henderson]

I am dating someone who doesn't read as much as I do right now, and I love that about him! You see, he does read, but not the sort of material I do. He reads up on how to do certain things because that's necessary for the projects he's working on. He reads my stories I write, which is a huge, huge plus! And he'll read anything related to his hobbies because he's looking for advice, tips, or just ways people have done things different than him.

I think the biggest thing is that I was drawn to reading growing up because that was my escape. His hobbies and interests were his escape, and being more hands-on activities, he wasn't so much into books. I think it's just different perspectives on how you absorb information, that's all!

[michelonline29]

For me yes, I could date someone because almost men that I knew never read books. They would prefer to watch movies rather than reading books.

[A Cup of Positivity]

Yes, I can. I have a lot of other interests, so we would be able to discuss other things. However if the person didn't respect my interest in reading, that's another story - I wouldn't be able to date them then, let alone be my friend. I believe that having respect, regardless of what the interest is, will lead to a successful friendship as well as a relationship.

[Amagine]

I could but I wouldn't. I'm a book nerd who likes to talk about books that I read. If I can't talk to my partner about books then that is going to be a total romance killer. After all a romantic date to me is one where we are relaxing on a beach sharing ear buds listening to an audio novel that we both enjoy.

[Rosie22]

What a great question!
just got me thinking about my dates from the past, and if I ever have before; can't think of anyone who didn't read; so that is probably a no!

yet I wouldn't make it a rule. I think if they had some other connection to either their own deep creativity, or if they were e.g. a podcast, TED talk kind of addict, I could work with that.
As someone said, I could only be with someone who had a thing that required lots of time of their own, that left me free to do my reading and writing without any demand that I give them that sacred time.

I could live without discussing books with a partner, as there are loads of other people , including here, that I can discuss books with.

[raeryn]

Probably not, since they're all I ever talk about. They'd probably get sick of everything I say about it. But if they're interested in other things I like (maybe movies or tv shows?) then maybe, since we'd actually have something in common then.

[ande-ny]

I wouldn't mind at all I mean how much you read doesn't make or break a relationship to me. Since that would never make or break a friendship, I mean and with all great relationships you start out as friends correct?

[Irena]

Well, yes, I would, there are other, for a relationship far more important things then reading. You could have a great conversation with an inteligent person provided that they are using their brain and their heart, they are openminded and wiling to share....it doesn't matter so much where they gather their information and their insights from.....on the other hand, if a reading or not is some kind of snobish thing to a person...I would not date him....because I think that in that case the purpose of the reading is being missed.